I Don't Know the Cure, But Here Is How You Can Manage Your Depression or Anxiety

I Don't Know the Cure, But Here Is How You Can Manage Your Depression or Anxiety

The weight of the world feels like it's on your shoulders the moment you wake up. Every thing that can go wrong seems like it always does, and more often to you. Hurtful things people say stick to you for days while nice things never seem to have any affect and you don't know why. On top of that, you can't seem to stop your thoughts from compounding, flying around your mind distractingly no matter how hard you try and it increases your heart rate to the point you want to cry but on the outside you look fine, so no one ever asks what's wrong. Even if they did, you wouldn't know what to tell them because there's nothing anyone's ever done to fix you. All you want is internal relief, but it's nowhere in sight.

If you've suffered from anxiety and depression, then everything I described is all too familiar to you, and then some. It's a living hell you did nothing to deserve to suffer through, and every day is a struggle to make it through without breaking down in which many times, you just can't help it. 

But you can help it, and without drugs. 

These battles may not completely go away, but there is way to manage them so they're not dominating your life, and it requires you to follow four rules on an every day, on-going basis until they become habit. 

1. Put these emotional and mental states into perspective. I've come to understand depression as being chained to some unfortunate past experience that I never let go of, and anxiety to be the exact opposite, future experiences I'm consumed with preventing without a definite plan on how. Putting these into perspective is the first step to giving your mental health less power over you than it already has and makes step two possible. 

2. Don't feed into it. You do this by bringing yourself into the present moment, whatever that is, and denying the past its power over your 'right now' as well as consciously choosing to forgo the burden of having your future completely figured out and in your control. You can affect your future by setting a plan and taking the right steps in every day life, but there are some things that will never be in your control, and that's okay. Up until this point, you've survived everything that has been thrown at you which means you're actually better at this than you thought. Anything that is not happening at that very second needs to get pushed down on your priority list, nipped in the bud, and you need to redirect your attention back to the current moment. 

3. Speak life into your spirit. Anxiety and depression comes in two forms; messages and visuals. You're remembering or forseeing something negative while narrating an equivalently negative message to yourself as you're trying to function in the real world. The counter is the thoughts you push into your mind. Affirmations work wonders. I have two books full of them you can purchase here, or you can create your own and make it your business to rewrite your subconscious messages with them throughout the day. Yes people may think you're going crazy if they see you talk to yourself, but it's better for them to think that than for you to let your negative inner voices actually drive you crazy, right?

4. Protect your energy like your life depends on it, because it does. Too often we operate from a place of what battles we're capable of winning, instead of focusing on the war for our mental health we can only win by avoiding battles that won't serve us.

Someone has a nasty attitude with you, and you immediately think of how they don't know just how much nastier you can get instead of how they're only inviting you into their world of inner turmoil that made them act that way towards you in the first place. So the reward of denying that invite to battle them is that their toxic energy stays outside while your inner peace goes unscathed for the rest of the day. It's not a sign of weakness to choose your battles wisely, it's a strategic war tactic that winners practice. You have enough obstacles with managing anxiety and depression as it is, you don't need to allow outsiders to become additional ones.

If you want additional ways to protect your energy, I have 12 that I personally use that have turned my life around since I committed to them that is completely free with any book purchase from this website or you can get it here. You are worth the investment, but more importantly, you are worth the effort. You can and will control your anxiety and depression if you make up your mind to. That little voice that just whispered that it's not that easy or that you can't is a great place to start. YOU tell it the truth, right now, that you WILL!


Disclaimer: If you believe you suffer from anxiety, depression, or any other mental health illness, please see a mental health professional as soon as possible. This is just what I have done and/or seen be effective for those who've struggled with depression and anxiety.

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  • I can appreciate your perspective and applaud your effort to address mental health with this article—especially as a Black male. It’s thoughtful that you’ve included a message to “seek help from a mental health professional” in the disclaimer, but the overall language of your article contradicts this statement. You frame anxiety and depression as purely “dwelling on an unpleasant past or potential future event,” and being managable “without drugs” if the individual wills it. These conditions in fact have a pathophysiological basis, just like diabetes or hypertension. As such, many people benefit from both psychotherapuetic measures (similar to the tips you provide above) AND medications. I understand the goal here is to sell a product, but you also seem genuinely interested in helping your followers. Given this, please consider omitting the aforementioned sentences or put the disclaimer at the beginning of the article? Just a thought—thanks!

    Anneka M. Johnson, MD on
  • Awesome article. Your description of how it feels on the inside when " all looks well on the outside" is correct.

    Kia Nathaniel on

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