I Don't Know the Cure, But Here Is How You Can Manage Your Depression or Anxiety

I Don't Know the Cure, But Here Is How You Can Manage Your Depression or Anxiety

The weight of the world feels like it's on your shoulders the moment you wake up. Every thing that can go wrong seems like it always does, and more often to you. Hurtful things people say stick to you for days while nice things never seem to have any affect and you don't know why. On top of that, you can't seem to stop your thoughts from compounding, flying around your mind distractingly no matter how hard you try and it increases your heart rate to the point you want to cry but on the outside you look fine, so no one ever asks what's wrong. Even if they did, you wouldn't know what to tell them because there's nothing anyone's ever done to fix you. All you want is internal relief, but it's nowhere in sight.

If you've suffered from anxiety and depression, then everything I described is all too familiar to you, and then some. It's a living hell you did nothing to deserve to suffer through, and every day is a struggle to make it through without breaking down in which many times, you just can't help it. 

But you can help it, and without drugs. 

These battles may not completely go away, but there is way to manage them so they're not dominating your life, and it requires you to follow four rules on an every day, on-going basis until they become habit. 

1. Put these emotional and mental states into perspective. I've come to understand depression as being chained to some unfortunate past experience that I never let go of, and anxiety to be the exact opposite, future experiences I'm consumed with preventing without a definite plan on how. Putting these into perspective is the first step to giving your mental health less power over you than it already has and makes step two possible. 

2. Don't feed into it. You do this by bringing yourself into the present moment, whatever that is, and denying the past its power over your 'right now' as well as consciously choosing to forgo the burden of having your future completely figured out and in your control. You can affect your future by setting a plan and taking the right steps in every day life, but there are some things that will never be in your control, and that's okay. Up until this point, you've survived everything that has been thrown at you which means you're actually better at this than you thought. Anything that is not happening at that very second needs to get pushed down on your priority list, nipped in the bud, and you need to redirect your attention back to the current moment. 

3. Speak life into your spirit. Anxiety and depression comes in two forms; messages and visuals. You're remembering or forseeing something negative while narrating an equivalently negative message to yourself as you're trying to function in the real world. The counter is the thoughts you push into your mind. Affirmations work wonders. I have two books full of them you can purchase here, or you can create your own and make it your business to rewrite your subconscious messages with them throughout the day. Yes people may think you're going crazy if they see you talk to yourself, but it's better for them to think that than for you to let your negative inner voices actually drive you crazy, right?

4. Protect your energy like your life depends on it, because it does. Too often we operate from a place of what battles we're capable of winning, instead of focusing on the war for our mental health we can only win by avoiding battles that won't serve us.

Someone has a nasty attitude with you, and you immediately think of how they don't know just how much nastier you can get instead of how they're only inviting you into their world of inner turmoil that made them act that way towards you in the first place. So the reward of denying that invite to battle them is that their toxic energy stays outside while your inner peace goes unscathed for the rest of the day. It's not a sign of weakness to choose your battles wisely, it's a strategic war tactic that winners practice. You have enough obstacles with managing anxiety and depression as it is, you don't need to allow outsiders to become additional ones.

If you want additional ways to protect your energy, I have 12 that I personally use that have turned my life around since I committed to them that is completely free with any book purchase from this website or you can get it here. You are worth the investment, but more importantly, you are worth the effort. You can and will control your anxiety and depression if you make up your mind to. That little voice that just whispered that it's not that easy or that you can't is a great place to start. YOU tell it the truth, right now, that you WILL!


Disclaimer: If you believe you suffer from anxiety, depression, or any other mental health illness, please see a mental health professional as soon as possible. This is just what I have done and/or seen be effective for those who've struggled with depression and anxiety.

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  • Derrick,
    I know who I am. Know who I always was. What I know is right. I lost it for a bit.
    Had a guy pick me up the other day hitchhiking (I know I live on a hippie island in the Pacific northwest) trying to get back to my car after spending a night with my girls drinking too much at the bar.
    15 minutes in the car my eyes barely open, my hair a mess, I sitting next to a good looking tall and ambitious sounding swiss man. I let it slip that I was an electrical technician (not feminine) and we had a nice conversation. I was almost worried because I have to pump my guys ego so much I was worried he’d be offended. I said good bye. I got out of the truck.
    2 days later I find out he’s asking around my neighborhood like I’m Cinderella. Who was that girl? Maybe hes a stalker. I dunno.
    But that’s the kinda man you should be looking for. Sees you at your worst and still tracks you down cause you may have had a moment.
    Maybe I’ll capitalize on it, but I’m still pretty fresh out of a relationship. Maybe I’ll focus on it some in my yoga pose ( which I’m learning)
    But fuck, that man you been waiting for. Doesn’t matter if you stink like day old tequila and cigarettes and look like you got hit by a bus.
    He’s going to think your awesome. Your always a babe to someone. Don’t settle for anything less.
    Slightly above average looking 32 year old with great boobs that might be you in a fight. Tired of asking her boyfriend to open pickle jars to validate his couch potato existence.
    Ps Derrick jaxn,
    Thank you for reminding me of the lady I always knew I was, and what I deserve. You’ve meant soo much to me.

    Jane Drew on
  • Wonderful message. I would just like to add, if I may…that chemical imbalances also play a part in this too. My marriage falling apart was a trigger to making it worse, but it wasn’t until I had a major SLE flare, went to the doctor and therapist and going through a lot of issues, that it was revealed that I also had a serotonin imbalance, and that all that I had been going through had exacerbated the never before discovered issue. So get checked out with your doctor as well.

    Trishie on
  • I agree with the previous commenter on omitting the statement “without drugs”. It perpetuates the stigma associated with using such medications and is extremely problematic.

    The rest of the article resonated with me. I just started watching your videos the last few days and love them all.

    Daisy on
  • Great article! You described me to a T. It’s not as bad as it use to be. And you are correct as to ways to combat depression and anxiety, without drugs. It’s important to surround yourself around positive people and things. “Seek and Ye shall find” Also helping others helps you too. Thanks Derrick, can’t wait to read all your products.

    Lois Rhodes on
  • Hello Derrick, thank you.

    julie on

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