Thoughts Of A Good Man

Author: DerrickJaxn

Derrick Jaxn is a lifestyle blogger, motivational speaker, and author. He consistently delivers raw truth with a passion and can emotionally connect with anyone no matter how alone you thought you were. If you read it, there's a good chance he writes it, but you won't get it like this from anywhere else. Follow him on Twitter & Instagram @DerrickJaxn.

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    • I agree. Now just to find a man or he find me that is that can come close to these statements :)

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      • One thing I’ve learned is patience. He will come at the right time when you least expect him to.

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  1. That’s wonderfully said. I love that. If only the thoughts could become reality.

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  2. Very insightful and encouraging. I have two young daughters and all I pray for is that they will have a good “Christian” man (no such thing as perfect, Only Christ) in their lives. Nice to know I can keep hope alive given these times we live in. Relationships can be successful when the man and woman know their role and fully committed to make it successful. You are definitely on the right path. You are a fine young man. Thanks Derrick.

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  3. Powerful, and food for thought from a male point of view. Sometimes, we as Black women carry such a huge chip on our shoulders , we can’t see or hear what a brother really needs from us that is so small. Thank you

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  4. Very well said Derrick. Something that we all need to see AND to put into practice.
    Patiently Waiting for my good man!

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  5. Powerful! It’s nice to have some insight on a man’s thoughts behind his actions. God Bless YOU Mr. Jaxn.

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  6. “The ONLY reason work ever comes before quality time…” I applaud this, brother. But don’t allow space for the insecurity. Knowing she will stick by you, regardless, should bring that security right back. She appreciates the effort, but you are still her focus over the tangible items.

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    • That’s easy to say. But when you see females bragging about what their man was able to provide and you see the longing face of your women when she can’t have those things, it’s very easy to birth that insecurity

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      • If I may interject, I agree with Simone. As a woman, I can provide for myself. I will allow a man into my life for emotional, mental and spiritual support and provide same to him.

        I have provided for myself for close to 17 years and can continue to do so without a relationship. What I need is passion, love, time and affection from my man. Don’t beat yourself up over tangible items…it’s not your job to provide that.

        PS I wish more men and women bothered to search their souls the way you do. I believe if we could eliminate the selfishness our culture breeds, male-female relationships might have a chance to thrive again.

        Heather

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  7. It is okay to be an independent woman but she has to know when she has encountered a good man to transition from independent to interdependent that way her man feels needed instead of unwanted. So man women in our culture are stuck in a mindframe that good men don’t exist. Excellent blog.

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