Society has been blurring the lines between a "baby mama" and a single mother for far too long. So just to trace over and redefine that line, I want to be very clear. This is not a post for the baby mama.
That means the going out every weekend while your child is at your mom's house types. The laid up with some random dude while your baby is crying because he's hungry, only to turn up your stereo louder to drown him out types. The ones with a 100% virgin remy fresh weave every week while your child can't even get school clothes, using your WIC check to buy sandwich meat for your "man" so he can have something to eat while he plays Call of Duty, or the twerking workshop giving to your two year old daughter so you can get Worldstar famous and meet 2 Chainz types. No boo. Not you.
This post is a salute to the real mothers out there that are making it happen on their own. Those women who cry themselves to sleep at night, not because they're lonely, but because they know their child deserves two parents but they're only capable of being one. The mothers who see their child's father spending money on random chicks while she's struggling to pay for daycare. Those who go to church with their children trying to steer them the right way, but have to endure hypocritical stares from all of the holier than thou's because she had children "out of wedlock" and has to take care of them on her own. Those mothers that try to ignore their own hunger pangs so their children will never know the feeling. Those mothers who lost their children's father to
death, or something completely out of their control, but have to live in a society that judges first, asks questions later. Those strong, may bend but never break, never giving up, faith having, single mothers. I salute you.
I had the honor of witnessing one of you first-hand growing up. She earned a degree, started her own business, and raised 4 children by herself thus proving that her God was bigger than her trials. I'm her youngest and I couldn't be more proud to call her my mother. No longer to be confused with "baby mama".
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