Written by: Derrick Jaxn
Those of you who've followed my blog may have read where I responded to the pastor who expressed his disapproval of weave so much that he banned it from his staff and openly discouraged it among his congregation...because there was nothing more important to talk about ..like the bible or something. It got me thinking, there's too many people that are treating women with processed hair like the step-children of the black community.
He mentioned a thing or two about financially struggling women with $300 weaves but I look around at the quality of hair-do's and don't think that's quite an epidemic. But the sad part is when he justified his disdain by saying, "it's associated with low self-esteem". So while I think he meant no harm, nor does the rest of the black community, I wonder have we yet to entertain the possibility of a woman with a perm and/or weave who's self-esteem is through the roof?
Now, I get it. Natural hair is healthier than processed hair. It's also a statement of pride in our heritage and God-given textures within a culture that has defined beauty by every characteristic but the ones we were born with. But I also know to applaud those with natural hair without booing and throwing tomatoes at those without. What are you really saying by telling a woman, or thinking to yourself as a woman, that you're now more beautiful without a perm?
To all of my black women, both natural and processed. You can't be made any more or less black by the way you style your hair. Your battle isn't to become more beautiful or more real, your battle is only to accept yourself regardless if that includes extensions or wearing a fro. Appreciate your ability to stand out without stepping on the necks of your sisters in the process. Your true beauty can't be combed, curled, or laid. It's in your heart, your actions, and the way you choose not to judge those that society told you it was ok to.