Soul mates aren't just two people who were destined for each other. They're two people who wouldn't give up on each other even when it would've been easier to do so. But when today's relationships get difficult, we throw in the towel and say, "It wasn't meant to be." Like everything was going to happen with or without our help. But if you truly did everything you could, then chances are, it wasn't even meant to start.
To enter a woman's heart, a man used to have to knock first, give his full I.D., state his purpose for showing up unexpected, and then wait on the porch until she was ready for him to come in regardless of how cold he complained it was outside. And if he had somewhere else better he needed to be, she invited him to take his ass on and go because she wasn't about to make his procrastination her priority. Nowadays...the door is wide open until he's ready to go. That's when she tries to lock him in or leave with him(lose herself), and by that time it's too late. The damage is done.
And when a woman gets damaged, she overcompensates in the future for the mistakes she made in the past and ends up giving up too soon on what could be special. Because the next man's imperfections remind her of the past men she's dealt with and scares her away into her "It wasn't meant to be" safety net. I get it. We've all been there. But now pop culture's making it a badge of honor to take no accountability in what we could do better and named it "He doesn't know my worth."
So we have this new movement of being more willing to give up on getting it right due to the fear of getting wrong.
But those elderly couples we adore who stayed married 50 years didn't just have a red carpet to happily ever after, they had to face and then get through obstacles.
That meant saying how they felt when the words wouldn't come out right, listening when they felt like they had already heard enough, rubbing the other's feet when their feet were hurting too, apologizing when they knew the other one was wrong. All of that. That's a soul mate. Because God aligns our blessings for us, but he also gives us the responsibility to keep them.
So yes, learn from your past, but don't confuse the effort it takes to keep a relationship together as just another mistake. It's not supposed to be easy. A lot of people are missing out on blessings like that and claim it's something that "God didn't want them to have" when the truth is that God wanted them to work for it to prove they were worthy.