Pastor Says NO To Women Wearing WEAVES In Church: Response

black-woman-weave-good-skinPastor A.J. Aamir recently told his leadership staff at Resurrecting Faith, DO NOT wear weaves. Pastor Aamir feels women wearing weaves presents a false image of themselves and are associated with women who have low self-esteem. At 39 years old, he leads a congregation whose average age is 22.

“Long hair don’t care. What kind of mess is that? I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads” AmericaPreachers.com.

“I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”

Pastor Aamir acknowledges he cannot legally prohibit women from wearing weaves in church, but he still highly disapproves it.

Resurrecting Faith was founded by Pastor Aamir and is located in Waco, Texas. Source: www.americapreachers.com

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So, to convince your female members to not focus on their hair, you focus on their hair. I guess that's one way to lead by example. And because some members are struggling financially, no one else is allowed to spend money on themselves without your approval. Hmm. Well, I'm curious as to how much your suit collection is worth and who approved of that. I guess you weren't too happy with what the collection plate came back with and now you're wanting to tell the congregation to cut their costs.  I'm willing to bet if they put that $300 in your pocket, you wouldn't be so disgusted now would you?

The audacity men have to tell women about what they are and are not allowed to do with their own bodies, hair, makeup, etc. floors me. It's fine for that to not fit your taste, but never get so caught up in the authority you have leading a church that you forget who's supposed to be leading you. Pastor.

What are your thoughts?

 

 

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  1. I want to know who gives him the right? Everyone should do things that make them feel good about themselves. Whether that is a weave, a mani/pedi or new clothes. As far as low income people are concerned they need this kind of thing as well. They just need to be smarter about how they go about it. Instead of a mani/pedi at a salon, buy the supplies and DIY at home. For the weaves, buy the hair and have a friend do it for you. For new clothes, search online at different blogs, so when they post about good sales, you can get the stuff you want then.

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      • I actually agree with the Pastor, here is the thing, a man in leadership is first obligated to set an example; he can not tell a congregation what to do if he is not first exemplifying this himself. The fact here is he has made himself successful, and it is wrong for you to assume his success came solely or predominately from the church… there are many pastors who tire religiously, sacrificing every inch of they’re day to the pasture’s calls, beckons at the foot of they’re hospital beds, pray for they’re sick families, yet your focused on his suit…. // His suit is simply materials… this is not altering who is his; its not a facade of his culture, who he was born to be. Most of the time pastors labor in vain or all they receive is a % of the church’s offering…/// but thats not the point of this article.. or at least that shouldn’t have been the point of the article.. The point the pastor was trying to make is about self love, self beauty… in this day in age.. woman have been ridiculed of their self worth by modern exploitations of idealism of the “perfect woman” the problem is..

        Woman especially of color have denounced they’re roots, they’re coil heritage and no longer self identify with who they naturally are or born to be.. I don’t believe the Pastor is asking for woman to burn and torch they’re luscious tresses.. but to understand who God made them.. How marketing and capitalist vendettas are schemed, so a woman who Debt to Income is high don’t get lost in this scheme wasting her money on fictitious images when she can be securing her future with investments etc. Ultimately he is trying to teach a balance of self love and money management.. Good article :)

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        • You say the suit doesn’t dictate who he is. Can we not say the same for weaves dictating self-esteem issues or denouncing roots? I mean, if I go buy a green t-shirt, does that mean I’ve forsaken the natural white cotton it was originally?

          The example he’s setting is dangerous. That’s that what’s on the outside is to be prioritized over what’s on the inside. To be focusing on a woman’s weave that is completely unrelated to her relationship with God or salvation is disturbing.

          He ultimately COULD be teaching balance and money management and there are much more effective ways to go about doing that rather than saying he’s tired of $300 weaves. That only paints a picture of what’s unacceptable further alienating some people from the person he’s supposed to be bringing people closer to. Thank you for your feedback.

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          • Why cant we assume his success is due to the contributions of the flock? God blesses his ppl. And just because a person does not want to go natural does that make them any less black? “pastor” is takn the focus off of the WORD and more of the physical….the bible instucts us to come as we are…but in a spiritual as opposed to physical way…Thats the reason ppl find it hard to find GOD thru other leadership, because, the ppl are a misrepresentation o the appointed message

          • If you bought a green tee shirt.. you would still be wearing cotton…you didn’t alter the shirt’s actual makeup therefore your not denoting the essence of the shirt….. .

            I understand your point that he should be very carefully not to confuse the audience of what is really important at the end of the day… and that is they’re relationship with God… but it is equally important for woman to know that by adding extensions, or wearing a wig will not really give you anything.. // the same as wearing an expensive suit won’t make you attractive.. but the difference is.. a matter of mentality… He is trying to get woman to understand that Hair isn’t what makes you beautiful/ it is simply an addition; just as cuff links are or a handkerchief to a suit..// if a man in a cotton shirt doesn’t first seem himself as handsome.. then him being in a suit will not change a thing// its all embellishments.. It all start in your mind, if you first don’t love who you are as an individual what your wearing/ hair or clothes won’t mean nothing.. I understand this because i see plenty of woman do exactly what he mentioned.. Unemployed.. children, yet taking they’re unemployment checks to buy a $200 dollar weaves// and it doesn’t just stop there.. the same woman will then buy gucci bags, and expensive shoes all trying to create this false perception of wealth.. or happiness.. of aesthetics Why?? because often times they feel the hair/ or weave will change them/ will make them feel better or look better then they do now.. // Its not the point of buying the weave.. its the mentality behind it. If no one ever teaches about the wrong in some of our actions… one will never understand the right or the truth.. Its a touchy subject.. so your right he has to tread lightly… :)

          • Well since we’re dodging the larger points to focus on technicalities of an anology, let’s say there’s a shirt that remains cotton and a person adds jewelry to it. Additions, “extensions” of the shirts appearance(pun intended) still don’t dictate the esteem of the person.

            You’re saving him from himself but the truth his, he meant exactly what he said. He doesn’t approve of weave. If it was just the mentality, he would take measures to address that and weave is hardly a good start there. But either way it goes, energy is neither created nor destroyed. So if his energy is being used on weave, then what is it being taken away from? Preaching the gospel maybe?

            He doesn’t need to tread lightly, he needs to tread correctly.

          • The leader of this congregation should have a main focus on soul salvation. The Lord says in his word to come as you are.Bring your brokeness,afflictions and your weave to the house of God.If this man is an effective leader doing his part according to the word for the flock, God is faithful that if a woman needs to shed her weave or her dancing shoes he(God) will deliver an individual. This man is not considering that fact that a whole lot of women HAVE

          • I kinda agree with the Pastor too. I think everyone here is missing the point. He is not telling them what to do, he is simply asking the question…”how can you say you are struggling with your finances yet you have a $300 weave?” And I would go on to say that, this is probably out of frustration that some if not most of them, come to the church asking for help. He is merely saying, if you can find the money to get a $300 weave, then you can surely find the money to pay your bills.

            It’s not about his suit. Dani is absoultely correct. This is not about his suits…..

          • Pastors in general are running a business. His suit alone cost far more than a weave. You don’t get the gays out of the pulpit but you speak against hairstyles. you allow illicit gossip, obesity, liars, adulterers, drunks and druggies…..if you don’t like the weaves then just state it and keep it moving. its not going to change by you dissing your members. use the power of prayer that you preach about to help settle your issues.

          • i agree with both responses but mostly agree with derrick’s response ultimately i read both but the more i agreed with was with derrick’s . it hits to the heart of what sometimes goes on these days in the church. Not all pastors think alike just like not all ministries think the same. GOD BLESS YOU ALL !!

        • Baloney! He’s focused in their weave and what they look like. It is the job of the pastor to serve and deliver the word. He is doing just the opposite and judging these women in the church based on their hair. I don’t think that he cares about black women and their african roots yada yada yada. He has a preference and is trying to enforce it upon the church. No one ia focused on his suit but if the congregation or the deacon board wanted him to wear jeans and sneakers what would his rebuttal be? I thought that the church always said “come as you are”. Apparently that’s not true for this church.

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        • IT’S JUST HAIR!!! AN ACCESSORY… NO MORE, NO LESS!
          HAIR!

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        • I actually agree with the Pastor. And I’d like to believe the small portion of his sermon posted here was most likely used out of context. I’m cautious to accept a one liner and then blast on it. I’d prefer to hear the whole message and make a judgement based on that. But in the grand scheme of what he’s trying to say I agree with his philosophy and he knows he can’t enforce it. Women who don’t agree with his philosophy are free not to be members of his church. And he never tried to say his beliefs are Bible based, I think they are clearly stated as his beliefs. But at the same time I’m not sure he could be MY pastor cause I couldn’t take him serious while he’s sporting that played out process curl he’s wearing.

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          • @Diva2dVL2 LOL! that is not pastor Amir. Mr. Jaxn posted a picture of Bishop Eddie Long…a funny looking one at that. lol!

      • But he says yes to sleeping with your 15 yr old daughter…cheating with your wives….financially ripping you off….spreading the ‘package’.

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    • That’s The Wrong Church To Go if they Focus on what someone wears, IJS this is not what church should be about, That’s why people don’t go to church because some people focus on the wrong thing. that’s not God’s word FOCUSONTHEWORD.

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      • i totally agree with you my sister show me in the bible (king James) where Jesus said depart from me because you have weave. I think not It is the soul that concern the father, instead of these pastor talking about hair the question they should be asking is If the lord were to return today will you go with him. Trust me we ARE living in the last days. Being a Apostle of the i want to see soul save not what on their head. It not about your money its all about what the lord want and that is our soul.

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    • Yeah……he needs to stick to whats written in the Good Book and leave the rest alone

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    • Is he supposed to be saving lives and bringing others to Christ. We focus so on the outer appearance rather than what is in the Heart.

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    • Where is that in the Bible! Let’s stick to the Word and not your personal opinion….

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    • The last I look our community and society as a whole appear to be going to hell in a hand basket. Why don’t leaders focus on the five fold ministry (teaching, evangelism, pastoring, prophesy and being apostolic on purpose). Maybe then the weaves will take care of itself.

      As for leaders, teach your staff how to pursue the fruit of the spirit of God and the gifts will make sense to the congregant. Focus on leaders violating boundaries with members, being ethically pure in all the financial business, and being transparent themselves. Of course the best way to teach these things are to model them yourself and not accept anything less.

      Our kids have low self esteem because the parents and other adults in their lives have low self awareness.

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  2. While he is motivating his (female) congregation to re-prioritize their spending habits, he needs to redirect his focus and recant that lopsided message. I thought church was a place to safe haven to seek salvation. The only time anyone needs to worry about my weave is at the salon. His message was arrogant and misguided.

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  3. I’m curious as to how much your suit is worth and you do not have to have $300 suits to preach God Word.

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  4. Just wanted clarification. The picture in the article is Bishop Eddie Long of the New Birth Missionary Baptist Church. Is that who the article is about? If not, then I don’t understand why his pictures is shown. Why not show a picture of the actual preacher that you have spoken about?

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    • After reading the entire article, you only got from it who was in the picture? Um.. ok. But there’s no pics available of the preacher himself, so I put another who represents the points I was making. If that somehow helps you understand the message better.

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      • I have something to say, but before I responded I wanted clarification. Sometimes all people see is the picture and then make assumptions. A picture is worth a thousand words, a thousand wrong words.

        As far as your article, I can see the point he is trying to make but I don’t think he went about it in the right way. It can be frustrating to watch women, especially young women, put so much money into something that doesn’t truly teach them to love themselves as God made them. Most times low income women put their money, time, and effort into the wrong areas because of what they see on t.v. not realizing the valuing self and loving self. Ultimately, if they want to buy weave, nails, fake eyelashes then that is their choice.

        If the pastor wants to improve his congregations self worth, sense of pride, love of natural beauty then he should have definitely taken a different route. D.I.Y classes, mentorship, etc. He will lose way more than he gains taking the attack approach. Too many other churches out there that won’t have a problem with ‘women with weave’.

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        • Well in case you aren’t aware, “A picture is worth a thousand words” is a phrase. A lot like “Step on a crack, break ya momma’s back.” It’s not a literal statement. I give my readers more credit than looking at a picture and drawing assumptions especially when there’s an entire article that explains exactly who this involves. This is a blog site, not a coloring book.

          But I do apreciate your feedback and thank you for reading.

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  5. This is utterly ridiculous and completely biblically wrong. Christ implores us to look at the heart of people. I’m a full time worship pastor in a poverty stricken inner city church. I see the reality of what this pastor is claiming as his motivation. However, the bible teaches me that Christ wants me the way I am, flaws and all. It is not my right as a church leader to illuminate the errors or others and formulate doctrine or heavy sanctions that discourage people from seeking God wholeheartedly. Doing so is in direct contradiction to the character of God; who is loving, kind, compassionate. Even in His discipline of us God shows mercy and love. This minister has no right to try as use his authority to demean an entire population of people.

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  6. Don’t see the problem personally. He put a focus on their hair to get them to see there might be some level of irresponsibility on their part. BUT, if he is going to try to call out the women on their financial and spiritual irresponsibility, then he MUST put the onus on the men and call them out on theirs also.

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    • There’s several problems. One, how does he know how much their hair cost? Two, is he himself giving back to the church tremendously or does he wear a brand new 3 pieced suit every day like most preachers? Three, are women who do have a lot of money and prefer to use it on personal upkeep allowed to come in his church and receive the gospel?

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    • But how is that really his concern?? I have been unemployed for 18mos with 2 kids…should i give my vehicle, n my kids clothes just becuz of someones perception?? How is one going to go on an interview and they r not presentable? Maybe a friend or relative help them keep up their appearance?? The logistics behind the statement doesnt make sense to me…

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  7. I don’t think he should Ban weaves, but I think he has the right idea. He should have programs in his church to teach about how to manage finances, and classes on boosting self esteem. Women should still have their right to choose what they wear on their heads and on their bodies as long as they are abiding by spiritual law. You can’t force people to stop doing what they are doing or being who they are. Life is about decisions. You can educate and influence….then allow people to make their own choices. Free will… God gave it to us, and no one can or should take it away. Education is the only way to enlighten, and uplift society. Alot of these preachers abuse the power their congregations allow them to have. He’s going about it the wrong way…. but if he teaches simple basics, like “need vs want” when it comes to finances and “having a positive self image” ….he’d would rub less people the wrong way, and create a positive change in his congregation and it start a wave of change that would also positively affect the youth coming up in the church and for generations to come.

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    • I understand the idea too, but you ever heard the term “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it”? We can rationalize his logic with very constructive ideas but it won’t change the damage he’s probably already done to his credibility in the eyes of his congregation. The way he’s going about it period is doing damage. And I question the motives when his focus is used on the outside as opposed to the inside. Isn’t there more important work to prioritize over hair?

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  8. I find the problem comes in at when we as people tend to get dressed up for people instead of getting us dressed up in the inside for our father. for we have become so church bound and not heavenly bound. I could understand on both parts. However, again we need to get back to where the real focus needs to be and that is the reason why we have church for our Father asked us not to “forsaken the gathering” just so that we can come to strengthen one another and lift up his Holy Name. NOTHING MORE AND NOTHING LESS.

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  9. If the average age of his congregation is 22, then he is trying to reach them with the wrong message! I agree that if he believes the church members are suffering financially, then it’s a better decision to put programs in place to help them manage their finances. My hair is naturally long and I don’t wear weave (maybe an occasional wig), but this offended me! I don’t know if this will cause his membership to decline because sometimes people follow man blindly, but if he is starting with weave you’ve can bet the artificial nails, Jimmy Choo pumps, and Michael Kor handbags are next, right along with retro Jordan’s, Armani suits, and Rolex watches. His focus should be on Gods message, and ensuring folks hear it.

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  10. Can I have the biblical verse that backs this “pastor”. Can I also have proof of the authority under which he makes this utterance and finally the address of this “church” so that I avoid it like the plaque! As a member of the kingdom nation and a royal priesthood, I am not condemned by what I wear or eat but in fact am justified in Christ Jesus.

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  11. I think his message was more about being a woman worth more than rubies than about money. Young women who feel their value comes from their outward appearance instead of their spiritual and intellectual worth is what I believe he was focusing on. It has nothing to do with the cost of his suits or the cost of their weaves. One only has to turn on the TV or other media to see that so many young women believe that they must look a certain way or behave a certain way (you’ve seen a twerking video or two right?) in order to be seen as attractive to men and many will spend money they don’t have in order to maintain a false perception of who they are. Perhaps the pastor was telling women to let their inner beauty shine more than their hair. Having “natural” hair is not seen as attractive as having a weave. He could have done a better job with his message, but I don’t see it as demeaning, but more empowering to women.

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  12. What Defiles a Man Mark 7:14-15 After He called the crowd to Him again, He began saying to them, “Listen to Me, all of you, and understand: 15there is nothing outside the man which can defile him if it goes into him; but the things which proceed out of the man are what defile the man

    Shame on Pastor hypocrite! Indeed how much did his suit cost? Or does he feel like he is entitled to spend the congregations money on custom suits and his own processed hair! He is pitiful!

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  13. After reading about this on another site where it had his entire statement, I actually agree with the pastor. He wasn’t actually banning weaves. Actually in his comments, he said that he wished that women, who were struggling financially would reconsider their priorities; made sense to me.
    We fall into societies pressure to look a certain way that sometimes we forget who we really are. If you can afford it comfortably, then go for it, but there are women who will spend their last dime keeping up physical appearances and then turn right around and asks other (church, family, friend, other social services) to help pay their bills.
    If, based on the salary that the Board of Directors at his church pays him, he can afford to wear a 3 piece suit, then wear it! Just deliver the Word of God while wearing it. In this day and age, the church is a business like it or not, and the pastor is an employee. What he does with his earnings isn’t for me to say, unless he is mishandling it and then coming back to the church for more. Same things for men and women. We as women will put so much into our appearances because we want others to see us a certain way or we pretend to be more than what we are not. That IS a self esteem issue.
    I’ve been homeless and unemployed before and had to live within my means to get done what I needed to get done. I gave up the nails, the clothes, and other material things to reestablish where I needed to be. There are women who will spend their last to get their hair done, but sit in their house with no water or lights. From what I read, what he is saying isn’t unrealistic. Get your priorities together….men and women

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  14. How judgmental is this guy, someone who supposedly is a child of God who gives “Christian” guidance to others on a daily basis…not all women who wear hair extensions have low self-esteem…it’s a form of expression. You’d be surprised, not all women’s pockets are hurting because they purchase hair extensions–there are affordable options out there that will fit everyone’s lifestyle. I wonder has he even bothered to talk to the women in his congregation, he’d be surprised–they probably have educational and career goals and they probably are intelligent women.

    Frankly he should be praising the fact that young people are even there to worship on a Sunday morning–that’s a blessing in itself. This is why things will never change…smh

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  15. Many times what people say is taken out of context. Weave are cute and damaging, not only to your hair (no edges) but ones idea and reality of self. Maybe his delivery was wrong but I truly believe he meant no harm.

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    • I don’t think it was taken out of context, I think he came out and said it out of context from the beginning. But it’s fair to say he means no harm…or…but I don’t think he minds if it did cause harm either.

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  16. You know, people will always find a way to spin a person’s words or actions in ways that they were never intended to be manipulated. Your inclusion of Bishop Eddie Long’s photo with the article to demonstrate “another who represents the points I was making” shows that you are trying to associate Pastor Aamir with person whose reputation has been tarnished in the press. No two pastors are alike, and neither are the decisions or leadership that they give their respected congregations. It is WRONG to unjustly associate Pastor A.J. Aamir with Bishop Long and any negative connotations associated with Bishop Long. It is manipulative and self-serving, and show that you lack journalistic ethics.

    I think it is wrong to assume that it is a Pastor’s duty to solely preach on Sundays and not have a say on a flocks everyday life. Some of the biblical requirements of pastors are to be leaders of a congregation, setting examples by teaching biblical truths and imparting wisdom, and helping to meet the needs of the flock. Moralistic leadership often spills over and directly addresses individual behavior outside of the walls of the church (which is evident by the Apostle Paul’s addressing wearing braided hair that was associated with prostitutes in 1 Timothy 2:9 and 1 Peter 3:3, 4.) And imparting wisdom doesn’t just come in the form of speaking form the Bible. As David wrote in Psalms 23, shepherding requires leading a flock in “paths of righteousness….” To me, I see this instruction in keeping with the multiple biblical examples of being wise stewards over your money (e.g. the rich young ruler who ended up in a pig pen.) IF the congregation is struggling financially they might need some guidance and wisdom on how to better appropriate their funds. Teachers know that there are multiple learning styles, and information must be delivered in multiple ways. Pastors are called to be teachers and a good teacher knows how to reach their pupil. So just like Pastor Aamir can preach about it not making sense to buy Jordans for your 4 kids when you have to go to the county to get utility assistance, he should teach about not buying a $50 -300 weave if you getting your electricity cut off every other month.

    It must be mentioned, which has been glossed over by you and those who have commented, that the instructions were given to his leadership staff and not to the congregation at large. Leadership is charged with helping to lead the congregation. All those in position are there voluntarily and can leave whenever they choose (it’s not like they get brought to church at gun point). IF they don’t agree with the directives, they can step down or switch their membership. Personally, I think it is better served to appreciate that the Pastor is trying to change wrong thinking which is keeping his congregation in a cycle of poverty than to say, “he just out for the money.”

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    • Thank you for reading.

      My inclusion of Bishop Eddie Long’s picture wasn’t because of a tarnished reputation, it because of two pastors “leading” churches by their own standards and not by the bible’s and yes birds of a flock do fly together. The association is by their actions, not by any “connotations” so let me be clear because my only mistake is if I “implied” anything. It’s not a reflection of my journalistic ethics but rather your acuity as a reader or lack thereof.

      There’s nothing glossed over. I state plainly to whom he told “DO NOT” wear weaves and I also quoted verbatim what he said. Now, while you may not agree with my summary and how I feel about it, that’s my right as is yours to disagree with my own words as well.

      The “if you don’t like it you can leave” idea is exactly the same bullshit served to blacks when we fought for our rights. No, those people should not have to leave. It should be a higher mandate that the person they are patronizing take in consideration who he’s affecting with his words, remember his purpose, and also prioritize the direction of God over his own personal taste. He mentions over and over again how he wants “his” church run but last time I checked, this wasn’t supposed to be about him. Good day.

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      • AMEN!!! There are a lot of pastors out here that dress in very expensive cloths, drive expensive cars, and live in big expensive houses. While they’re congregation is living well below middle class. They should be ashamed of themselves. And personally I would have to tell him and anyone like him to go to hell I’ll spend my money on whatever the hell I want to. I’m the one who goes to work and earns my paycheck. Not a single one of them will ever get a penny of what I earn!!!;-D

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  17. This is just wrong. There is a way, in the church, to teach financial responsibility and not to just tell women they cannot wear a weave. What about the Elder sitting on the front row in alligator/croc shoes, is that not being responsible with their finances? There are so many “what if’s” to look at in regards to this pastor. Was he mad, like the writer stated, that the collection was low for that Sunday? Could he not pay for what “he” needed because the collection was low? Did the church suffer because sister “?” has Brazilian wavy in her head and the lights were about to get turned off.
    Let’s be real, if he is truly committed to financial stability and security in his church, then teach that, not demand what they cannot have.
    There has to be some senior person on his staff to show him better. But my mother used to always say “once you know better, you will do better”
    As for me, me and my weave will rejoice in the lord!

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  18. This pastor is insanely out of line. As a women that suffers with Alopecia, I wear wigs and weaves because I’m balding. It has nothing to do with low self esteem. I have a job, and as a professional, I can’t go around my patients with a head that looks like an eagle has been picking in it. I agree with some of the other respondents; how about a class on money and debt management? If he feels that low self esteem is an issue, how about a bible study teaching women to view themselves as God does. Telling anyone what they can/should wear and not wear is ridiculous. It’s pastors like him that will turn people away from Christ, not draw them to Him. What nerve!!!

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  19. I think the pastor has the right idea, but the wrong way of going about it. We black folk have a long history of buying what we don’t need, nor can afford and neglecting what we should financially. He should have also called out the brothers who spend money on gators, Jordans, and new rims but don’t pay child support or bills. I have seen and known sisters who think they are incomplete without a weave down their back. Who won’t swim or sweat because of it and that’s wrong. They have image problems with who God made them. Fake hair, fake nails, fake lashes. Their men have never seen them out of makeup and all their fakery. There is nothing wrong with some accessorizing and trying some new looks, but we have taken it to a whole ‘nother level! There are brothers who want a girl with long flowing hair so she has that video vixen look. We have work to do!

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  20. At the end of the day adults must make their own decisions on whats appropriate for their households. Pastors are hold to a higher regard and must be wise before speaking to their members. Its not smart for a person to spend their money on things that are not necessary to have, especially when they have financial matters to take care of. So if the members of his church is struggling then the church should host free classes on money management, and this may be an avenue that he has already tried…… I don’t know. I believe our people perish for the lack of knowledge and money issues are learned behaviors. If money came with instructions our country would not be in the economic deficit we are currentky in. The bottom line is the members of his church must want to change for themselves. It is the members job to support the church ministries….and it takes money to have a productive church.

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  21. That is not his authority. Pastor’s have put themselves on some type of pedestal where they are to manage people’s lives. This is going back to the law and the old covenant. Jesus did not come and go around telling people to stop wearing newly designed sandals with an extra lace on it or fancier robes. He went around speaking life and grace into dead, lacking people. This is all this pastor needs to be doing. Pastors just need to start preaching the dang Gospel and get away from all this micro-management of the “flock”.

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  22. I noticed the words “low self-esteem” several times while reading through these comments. WTH?! Why is that? Why are some people equating wearing weave with low self-esteem? Does that also apply to wearing makeup, jewelry, designer clothing, polishing your nails, toes, etc…? Nothing wrong with enhancing your look. People need to take a look back in history, this is not a new phenomenon; women AND men wore wigs and makeup to enhance themselves (ancient egyptians, colonial period, etc…), some African tribes are still piercing and carving up their bodies (tribal tattoos). Do they also have low self-esteem for changing the way “god created them”? I have natural hair that I love to wear in a BIG curly afro ponytail, but I also wear weave when I feel like switching it up. Nothing wrong with my self-esteem. It is our prerogative to switch it up and do whatever we choose with OUR BODIES. Make no mistake about what is really going on here. This is about CONTROL, plain and simple. Religion is big business right now, and it’s being used to try to control the masses…specifically women. This man was out of line! He needs to stick to the word and stay in his lane. He is but a “messenger” after all…not god.

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  23. THIS PASTOR IS TAKING THE RIGHT APPROACH. THE BIBLE CLEAR LY TALK S ABOUT WOMEN ADORNING THEMSELVES AND CHRISTIANS ARE TO BE SEPERATE PEOPLE. KNOW YE NOT THAT YOUR BODY IS THE TEMPLE OF GOD. WHEN ONE WEARS A WEAVE AND IS PUT NEXT TO ANOTHER UNBELIEVER OR OUTSIDER WHATS THE DIFFERENCE. NOTHING. “CHRISTIANS NOW GO TO CHURCH DRESSED AS THEY WOULD WHEN ATTENDING A CLUB. IF WE TRULY BELIEVE IN GOD, AS WE SAY PERFECTLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE THEN WHY SHOULD WE ENHANCE OR ACCENTUATE OUR BODY AND FACES. WE MAKE ALL TYPES OF EXCUSES ABOUT PASTORS, THE CHURCHES AND RELIGION BECAUSE WE LOVE THE WORLD TOO MUCH. LOVE NOT THE WORLD NEITHER THE THINGS THAT ARE IN THE WORLD…WEAVES, EARRINGS AND ALL. #SERVE GOD RIGHT #LOOK ON YOURSELF

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  24. Maybe it’s more to this but if not… He needs to just focus on the Word and not a person’s appearance. I don’t see anything wrong with a person treating themselves or wanting to look/feel nice. If he wants to help educate and motivate his flock on financial stability then he should incorporate that into a sermon or hold a class for that. JMO

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  25. People come to church to find answers and resolutions to their problems, not to be judged by a man. Some people see the church like a hospital, they don’t expect to leave there the same way that they came. They expect to find answers or some type of relief to their problems, not to be judged by their looks. There’s a scripture that says unquote, he that wins souls is wise. I’m not a bible scholar but Pastors and leaders have to wise in what they say and how they say it to people in the congregation. The statement that he made is NOT biblical at all and he will have to answer to God for that comment that he made………….

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    • You said that: “Some people see the church like a hospital, they don’t expect to leave there the same way that they came. “ I would offer that you not leaving the same way they came would be renewing their mind. Romans 12:2 (NCV) says: ” Do not be shaped by this world; instead be changed within by a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to decide what God wants for you; you will know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect. ” IF the church continues to have messed up thinking about spending (not just on weave) then the church that is struggling will continue to struggle. God never meant for Israel to wander in a desert for 40 years, but they had to wander so that Egypt would get out of them. God’s plan is for us to not have jacked up thinking and misplaced priorities all our lives, but for us to renew our minds. The pastor is trying to get his congregation’s spiritual minds right. Their thoughts have to be inline with God’s thoughts and ways if they are to prosper.

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  26. This pastor, doesn’t have the right to dictate what the women in his congregation to not wear weave! Smh, his priorities should be on bettering his community, the poverty, elderly, education, & etc….that’s what’s wrong with these churches today so caught up on fashion instead of what’s important!
    GOD says come as you are! That pastor has his freedom of speech but i disagree of what he’s saying about how women dress.

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  27. Poor financial priorities can be seen in a lot of places,so unless he’s willing to walk the congregation out to the parking lot to address the rims, into the closets to address the shoes, stalk his members in the club on the weekends, pull up sleeves to assess the cost of watches and generally call people out for everything from their choice in furniture, perfume, cell phones, and every other potentially erroneously priced consumable known to the modern world, he has no say when it comes to what the women in his congregation do to their hair.

    We all see where he was going with it but the message was lost in the delivery.

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  28. We go to church to worship our Savior Jesus Christ, not to talk about weaves or to be worried about what members are spending their money on. It is very irrelevant for him to be talking about weaves in service. I can’t deal. Can we preach the gospel and save souls instead of talking about something that is sooooo irrelevant to life?? Get back on track.

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  29. I am disgusted with this honestly. Like who does he think he is to say something like that? He founded the church which is in debt and I don’t believe his Congregation has any obligation to that. The bible tells us to pay tithes and offering but it is The Pastor’s Responsibility to pay the bills etc for the church and since he was the founder he should be maintaining things. Let him run a list of how much his car, house, suits, shoes etc cost and what he spends money on aside from those things and how much on a weekly or even daily basis. And if they wear $300 weave and don’t pay their tithes and offering who must they answer to? Him or the Lord? smh If they come into his church with weave will they be ushered out and not allowed to receive the word of God??? This is why folks don’t want to come in from the world and join the church , preachers like him . Lord help him

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  30. Sheeple….. Which appears to justify a “Pastors” decision to focus on something as superficial as a woman’s weave. It appears that nothing has changed since I last attended a church service. “Set apart”, “We are different” “There is something wrong with everyone of you in this church” “You were all born in sin” e.g. you were born so bad and we will make sure we remind you every Wednesday, Sunday or any other day that you choose to show up for more church abuse. Does anyone realize that the Bible has been edited based upon those edits that have actually been recorded, over “148,000 times”? Whose words are you really reading? Blessings! From-Blessed in a beautiful relationship with God-very loving and compassionate relationship.

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  31. It sounds to me he wants the money the women are spending on their heads.

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  32. My question to pastor Aamir is this, what scripture did you find that commandment in? He needs to be careful in doing this blood work because He will have to answer for the blood of every soul before God.

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  33. So…. its OK for you to have hair implants but your congregation can’t improve their appearance? Stop being so caught up in the physical appearance of people. No one said anything to you when you wore your muscle shirts with your suit vests. Come on…

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  34. People are committing suicide left and right and this pastor is worried about HAIR WEAVE!!!!!!

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  35. Girl… You are sooooo right! All these churches where the Pastor preaches “modesty” for their women, who all come to church looking sooooo rough and wonder why they can’t find a husband …. even in church…. the pastors comes in wearing $300 suits and FORGET about his cars….

    I’m sure this is a gross exaggeration of most churches BUT…. VERY TRUE FOR TOO MANY!

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  36. Ha!!!
    Yep, sounds that way to me as well!
    ;-(

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  37. Thank you for bringing this bizarre story to my attention! I mean I love the fact that the Pastor feels he can talk about this honestly with his church members, it’s an issue if your sacrificing baby formula for remy hair installation! But I hope he realises that this ‘ban’ can’t apply to the younger generation only…all those grandmothers are rocking weaves/ wigs of some kind. Know one should force anyone to do anything we are all adults here. But I take the principle: love what God has blessed you with whether long or short, and don’t be a slave to fashion which is what spending $300 to hair you will throw in the bin in six months will do you.

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  38. I am so grateful for your blog.Much thanks again. Really Cool.

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