Written by: Derrick Jaxn
"Valentine's Day is just a big money making scam." Okay...
"Flowers and candy mean nothing if the love is sour." Okay...
"Valentine's day should be every day, not just one day." Okay, stop.
This whole anti-cupid movement has got to end.
You're not obligated to forfeit the other 364 days of the year when you celebrate Valentine's so it's time we stop using that as an excuse to get out of it. By that logic, we need to stop going to church, because we should pray every day; not just on Sunday. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Mother's Day; scratch all of those off. Let every single day of the year be just like every other day of the year because we should do everything all the time. Right?
Wrong. We don't need to do away with Valentine's Day. We need to do away with the people who have the X Factor talent to find a negative in any little thing.
With that being said, I love getting on the internet. But I hate getting on the internet to see people cry and complain the moment they realize the rest of the world is on the verge of happy. High anticipation is like a mating call to buzz-kills around the globe jumping at the chance to make everyone else as miserable as they are. Combine them with the forces of people looking for an excuse to be selfish and you got yourself the Mighty Morphing Power Rangers.
So that power team goes out, exposes themselves to good women, and convinces you that Valentine's Day is a set up. After having your bubbles busted, the "less expectations, less disappointments" mental safety net forms causing you to settle for less even though deep down, you do want to be spoiled and able to talk about it to your girls who will likely have their own recap at the next conversation. No one likes going out to eat just to have bread sticks and water while everyone else is digging into their shrimp and steak dishes. So stop lying to yourself that you're happy your man doesn't surprise you with a thoughtful gift on the one day set aside for lovers.
I get it. Unexpected "just-because" flowers and gifts are great, but half the time you don't even get that. Your low maintenance expectations are going to get you confused with the door mat and wondering why he thinks it's no big deal when he forgets the anniversaries and birthdays too.
You're not asking for flowers, balloons, cake, and candy to get sent to your job every single day. In addition to getting fired, that shit is unrealistic. Some days you don't want to be bothered, sex that simply gets the job done will suffice, and you don't want to feel guilty about wearing that trusty scarf you've had for 10 years. That's perfectly fine. But that's also the fun in Valentine's Day where you can go all out, wake up early to serve breakfast in bed, and have reckless animal sex till you catch a cramp.
The point is, Valentine's Day serves a purpose. With all the things we have to go through on a regular basis like Mondays, paying rent, seeing your team get blown out in the Super Bowl, and menstrual cycles(which equates to a drought for men); we should be trying to preserve this unique day we have look forward to. Because no matter what, there will always be consistent effort of people who want to see you unhappy. But on this one day, even our twisted society cosigns for love and the importance of showing it to the best of our ability. So go ahead and add this to your list of days where you think outside of the box, put a little more effort in, and resend those sparks flying. Because actions speak louder than words and Valentine's Day is the wrong day to bite your tongue.