Thoughts of a Good Man
Aug15

Thoughts of a Good Man

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A REAL Man Can Handle…

I got an email not too long ago from a woman having some issues keeping a man, and I couldn't believe her reasoning as to why she was having such a hard time. Apparently there's not many men who are "man enough" to step up to her plate...which was loaded with a bunch of BS she felt should come with the package of "not being perfect". According to various Twitter rants and casual conversations I've overheard, a lot of women seem to share her sentiments, so this message is to her and every woman alike. If you've ever said, "It takes a real man to be able to handle me", I probably(as in definitely) am talking to you.... Why do you feel an entitlement to a man's perserverance to keep you while all you do is put it to the test? In other words...you've got some nerve. A real man is hard enough to find as it is, don't think that the world owes you one. Ask around, being lonely long-term is more than a myth. It's way too much TV watching going on if perfectly sane women are really expecting every brother to come whisk them off their feet as they kick one leg in the air. The ones who are ready and willing to do just that also come with high standards and can spot trouble a mile away. But hypothetically speaking, let's say a real man does come your way. He's probably working hard to keep his bills paid on time and credit score high. After a long day of doing that, you figure the best way to strengthen the relationship and repay him is to give him more stress: Being stubborn, asking a million questions at all the wrong times, acting suspicious of every move, claiming you're tired when he says he's hungry. Like that's your role. Like you got it like that. Like there ain't already a good number of single good women and an unlimited supply of misguided women like you just waiting for a chance.... What man wants a woman that he has to "handle" anyway. You're grown, or at least try to pretend. You're going around telling everyone how you was "too much" for your last man, but you're the first to start talking slick when you see him with a white girl. It's not about race so let's not even go there, but you seem real quick to point a finger at everyone and everything but the mirror. "Nobody's Perfect", "My Good Outweighs My Bad", "Men Are Intimidated By a Strong Woman", yeah I've heard it all. Truth remains, real...

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Mistake….n Love

I recently had a conversation with a young lady discussing our pasts which always turns out to be interesting. You can tell a lot about a person based on how they analyze their experiences. She told me that in her last relationship, she never loved her ex even though she thought she did. Pretty normal right? I mean we've all been there and I, like everyone else, know that lust comes before love. So, I continued to listen hoping there was some kind of epiphany she had at the end of it all. As she talked, the possible explanations of what she felt kept switching until she just concluded, "ya know I guess I never really thought about it". First of all, when dealing with the heart, things all but slip your mind. They haunt you until you're so exhausted you just give up or make sense of it and few of us are so lucky to do the latter. So I called her defense mechanism's bluff right off the bat but what bothered me is that she still hadn't figured it out. You can't treat an illness that you haven't diagnosed. I proceeded with caution from then on and I use the term "proceeded" loosely. I decided long ago that I've had enough heartbreaks to last me a lifetime so someone's mistaken love is the last thing I need in my near future. Too many times we ignore red flags like these. I'll keep myself from having that "I wish I woulda" moment in the future when I realize I'm no exception to reality. Thanks but no thanks. -Derrick Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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Chick-Fil-A Sees Record High Sales

Ok, you've probably already heard, but if not....Chick-fil-A hit record breaking sales on Wednesday which was "Appreciation Day". "While we don't release exact sales numbers, we can confirm reports that it was a record-setting day," Steve Robinson, Chick-fil-A's executive vice president of marketing, said in a statement. In other words, the efforts of Pro-Gay marriage-ians who decided to try and sabatogize the success of Chick-fil-A....backfired. I guess all this talk that's stirring is making them more relevant than ever, and when lunch time comes, it's only one place on my mind. I admit, I was worried about America, but apparently we still have some sense in tact. Now I'm for everyone having the right to do what they want both moral and immoral as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. If Chick-fil-A purposely sold poisoness sandwhiches to gay people, I'd understand your sentiments completely. Otherwise, I can't understand why people would boycott a business for their views unless they were that insensitively gunhoe about making an example out of someone. Sure, it's a right of the people to patronize who they wish, but can we use our collective buying power to send a more valid message on things that really need changing...that wouldn't include religious beliefs by the way. So anyway, I've continued eating at God's gift to chicken lovers, aka Chick-fil-A. Just as I'm rubbing my stomach in satisfaction of a tasty waffle fry, I hear that Chicago has banned the opening of any new Chick-fil-A stores opening.....seriously. So to open a business, a test must be given of what political/religious beliefs the store owner has first? If this doesn't scream constitutional decay, I don't know what will. Well either way, I'm sure they're enjoying the free promo given by the protesters. Oh yeah....Eat mor chickin!!!! -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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A New Chapter….Same Book

Ok, so some of you may have noticed that I've been on somewhat a hiatus as of late. I've been collecting my thoughts on several subjects and just wanted to filter them before I spread the curtain. I guess the main one would be on the subject of women, trust issues, etc. It's ironic that I almost made that one in the same of a genre of topics but in 2012 it seems to go hand in hand.. In my encounters with women, I've always believed in a kind of woman or a particular woman rather, that I'll be be able to trust 100% with everything I am. A mistaken preconception to say the least but it's not a bad thing. It's unfortunate, but only realistic and human that nobody can be trusted 100%. We can't even hold ourselves to our own expectations, much less meet someone else's. So I've been wondering if trust is an all or nothing deal or can you trust someone....kinda? It really changes my entire perception of the "perfect for me" girl. It was a blissful yet naive dream turned nightmare. Just like when you first wake up in the morning, and those initial moments, you're confused about where you are, what day it is, and what woke you up... well I'm trying to shake off the sleep and get on with my day to day. I never regret my past, because I always learn something with every person that goes through that revolving door of false alarms and close calls of love and friendship. For everyone knows that mistakes are only mistakes when you don't learn. So to every former "friend" and "true love", thank/fuck you for the lesson.... -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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Letter in a Bottle

You're probably wondering why this letter is in a bottle. Well I finally gave up on trying to get your new mailing address from your mother who insists I need to leave you alone. So maybe you and your new family will be on vacation and the waves may bring this to your feet. Just a few things I never told you or got off my chest. Too busy...loving love instead of trying to sustain it. I've been begging God for your visit, your call, but at this point I'll settle for you just reading this letter. Because I can't die without you knowing that I always loved you. Actions don't speak louder than those words because I know I didn't always show it. I mean I went 19 years knowing every kind of girl other than the one for me; was I supposed to get it right on the first try? You see, there I go making excuses again. I never should have lied to you. I never should have tried to make you feel guilty for wondering who else was on my mind. If I could do it all again, I'd walk the other way and come back once I was ready. Lord knows I wasn't ready, but he didn't tell me. No it's not his fault, see he knows what you deserve. So don't think of me happening to you as punishment for anything, you've done no wrong. Before the man for you came along, God sent me to show you what to never go back to. For that, I'm thankful because now you're happy. As for me, dying alone is inevitable. God used me just like I did him and I'd be a fool to think we were on any kind of good terms. I hope you still smile like you used to when you looked in the mirror and I told you how beautiful you were to me. That part was true and if you don't believe me, look again. I'm sure it hasn't changed. I have a question...Does he sneak up behind you then kiss you gently when you turn around? You used to love that. I know it's none of my business, but if I don't say it now, I may never have another chance. It would be nice to never have to make a mistake to learn from it. But I blew it. I wish I was half the man you thought I was then maybe we'd still be together. Missing you is so painful. My tears are making my vision a little blurry so maybe it's time for me end this letter. Maybe God will let me wait outside heaven's gates for you....just until you arrive, for one last...

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