Written by: Derrick Jaxn
I've been seeing this meme around for a while now and I did what I normally do when I see people saying whatever they can for brownie points. Kept it moving.
But the last time I saw it, I realized it was giving desperate women Red Bull wings. They shouted hallelujah, ran up and down the aisles, and waved this in the face of the men who met them last week to prep him for the pressure coming if he didn't hurry up and pop the question.
So what exactly is going on in this meme? Lie now. Be honest later: that technique is a bullshitter's best friend. That's where you say something completely wrong but end it on a good note so the credibility and emotional high spreads to the rest of your argument and people forget to think about the entire message. Richard Nixon was famous for this.
Stop idolizing boyfriends. I'm good with that. You shouldn't idolize anyone; husbands, & pets included, so that's the more honest part of the quote.
But as for the part where desperate chicks do jumping jacks, A man has done nothing for you until he's made you a wife...
The courtship is where the foundation of a relationship is built, also said to be the most important. It's where a man proves his ability to love and support you with his actions and vice versa so why would a woman in her right mind reduce that to "nothing" in the name of getting a wedding ring?
There are boyfriends who've literally died for their girlfriends, so throwing relationships this far out of context is not only misguided, but likely to leave a woman without a husband for the rest of her life. Why? Because desperation is to men, what no job, bad credit, and an addiction to Call of Duty is to women. HUGE red flag.
The primary reason both good men and women leave relationships, is because of a lack of appreciation. So being brainless enough to run with this kind of mindset(in the meme) will end something that could be beautiful before it even gets a chance to start.
Real women know how to focus on the goal at hand while being grateful for the journey it takes to get there. When God sends you a husband, he's likely to start off as your boyfriend. Saying that he's done nothing for you is a huge slap in the face to both of them. So if a man has truly done nothing before you get to the altar, then you have no business giving him the honor of taking you there.