My Anaconda DON’T!
Sep17

My Anaconda DON’T!

Written by @DerrickJaxn Nikki Minaj's Anaconda video set off a fire storm. Feminists were pissed, nuns were blushing, but most importantly, society's value of women just took yet another swerve in the wrong direction. But even before Nikki's video, Instagram ran rampant with the ass on the sink pose, the unsuspected walking away shot in leggings, and of course the yoga pants doing squats(without a drop of sweat). And men haven't made it any better. Our thirst-comments, likes, and shares when women do these obvious(or so I thought) things for attention are only positively reinforcing the idea that it's all good. But to those women who are doing them, I think it's necessary to share a few things to hopefully balance out the rest of the clutter because one day you'll realize it's more to life than a username and password. We're glad the woman we really want is just fine with being "boring". There's nothing wrong with a woman being physically sexy; there's everything wrong with a man who can't see anything past that. But your see-through(or hardly any) clothing reveals more than just your qualities as a woman. If you want to be out at every club, gawk over felons with blue eyes, and choose men based on the number of tattoos they have, do it. That's your prerogative. You seriously don't have to stay in the house all day eating bon bons to feel like you're being a phenomenal woman. But I've never met a man, me included, that's had intentions of anything long term with those types. If a man is a reflection of you with the way he carries himself, then the same goes vice versa. The same maturation and discipline you'd want out of your man to curb his enthusiasm with female friends and get his ass off the couch to go to work is the same thing your man would expect of you to know how friendly is too friendly and that getting sloppy drunk on the weekends is tacky. As for the woman with hardly any likes on her photos because it's just her in her graduation gown, or her sipping wine and watching Scandal, or maybe out with her elder family members at a spa; that's the woman a (good)man doesn't just come home to, he MAKES a home with. And  by no means should you shape your personality and lifestyle to the desires of men, but do be consistent in what you say you want(in a relationship), and what energy you're giving. We don't take you serious when you say, "What happened to getting to know someone first?" For most guys, there's a period in life where they're...

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