Why Your Man is Faithful To You, But You’re Still His Side Chick
Feb15

Why Your Man is Faithful To You, But You’re Still His Side Chick

Written by: Derrick Jaxn Let's get one thing clear, there is no such thing as a main chick. If there's more than one involved, then everybody's a side; one piece is just bigger than the other. But most women who are side chicks, aren't coming second to another woman, but rather to the fear of what could go wrong from requiring more. They say things like, "At least I got a man." No, he has you-wrapped around his finger, safely away from a man who's ready and willing to love you because you think your loyalty will change him into a better man. You've been played so much, you feel like a man who's faithful is some kind of bonus as opposed to the bare minimum that it should be. You know you aren't happy, but being able to convince everyone else you are is enough to help you hold on a little longer. Accept your reality or change it; but you can't deny it forever. Trust me, I get the whole down for whatever thing; you don't want to hog a man's time and attention because you're not selfish, right? But why be with someone who'll ask you hush while the game is on but can't turn his phone off while the two of you watch a movie? A man whose focus is never completely yours unless he's trying to come or he's telling you he's hungry. Answer that out loud on the first try without stuttering. Pay attention and you'll notice that these are the same women that will talk shit to a genuinely happy single woman with all her bills paid and money left over, then dare her to give any advice on life. "You wish you had a man", says the miserably taken woman. "You wish he was a man", responds the single woman with sense enough to leave that other side of the bed vacant instead of getting placeholder penis to run her miles up and eat all her groceries. Yes you can do better, but not if you're afraid of being alone and finally doing nothing. Nothing, as in being alone on the weekend while everybody else is cuddled up. Nothing as in wishing you had someone to give you Valentine's Day candy so you could post it on Instagram. Nothing as in going to the movies in your pajamas, getting a large popcorn, and licking your fingers when you're done because you don't give a shit who's offended. Not the kind of nothing where you stand by and wipe your brow that you're not like "all these single chicks" while your man...

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Get Off Cupid’s Nuts
Feb11

Get Off Cupid’s Nuts

    Written by: Derrick Jaxn "Valentine's Day is just a big money making scam." Okay... "Flowers and candy mean nothing if the love is sour." Okay... "Valentine's day should be every day, not just one day." Okay, stop.   This whole anti-cupid movement has got to end. You're not obligated to forfeit the other 364 days of the year when you celebrate Valentine's so it's time we stop using that as an excuse to get out of it. By that logic, we need to stop going to church, because we should pray every day; not just on Sunday. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Mother's Day; scratch all of those off. Let every single day of the year be just like every other day of the year because we should do everything all the time. Right? Wrong. We don't need to do away with Valentine's Day. We need to do away with the people who have the X Factor talent to find a negative in any little thing. With that being said, I love getting on the internet. But I hate getting on the internet to see people cry and complain the moment they realize the rest of the world is on the verge of happy. High anticipation is like a mating call to buzz-kills around the globe jumping at the chance to make everyone else as miserable as they are. Combine them with the forces of people looking for an excuse to be selfish and you got yourself the Mighty Morphing Power Rangers. So that power team goes out, exposes themselves to good women, and convinces you that Valentine's Day is a set up. After having your bubbles busted, the "less expectations, less disappointments" mental safety net forms causing you to settle for less even though deep down, you do want to be spoiled and able to talk about it to your girls who will likely have their own recap at the next conversation. No one likes going out to eat just to have bread sticks and water while everyone else is digging into their shrimp and steak dishes. So stop lying to yourself that you're happy your man doesn't surprise you with a thoughtful gift on the one day set aside for lovers. I get it. Unexpected "just-because" flowers and gifts are great, but half  the time you don't even get that. Your low maintenance expectations are going to get you confused with the door mat and wondering why he thinks it's no big deal when he forgets the anniversaries and birthdays too. You're not asking for flowers, balloons, cake, and candy to get sent to your job every single day. In addition to getting...

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