Soul Mates
Nov22

Soul Mates

Soul mates aren't just two people who were destined for each other. They're two people who wouldn't give up on each other even when it would've been easier to do so. But when today's relationships get difficult, we throw in the towel and say, "It wasn't meant to be." Like everything was going to happen with or without our help. But if you truly did everything you could, then chances are, it wasn't even meant to start. To enter a woman's heart, a man used to have to knock first, give his full I.D., state his purpose for showing up unexpected, and then wait on the porch until she was ready for him to come in regardless of how cold he complained it was outside. And if he had somewhere else better he needed to be, she invited him to take his ass on and go because she wasn't about to make his procrastination her priority. Nowadays...the door is wide open until he's ready to go. That's when she tries to lock him in or leave with him(lose herself), and by that time it's too late. The damage is done. And when a woman gets damaged, she overcompensates in the future for the mistakes she made in the past and ends up giving up too soon on what could be special. Because the next man's imperfections remind her of the past men she's dealt with and scares her away into her "It wasn't meant to be" safety net. I get it. We've all been there. But now pop culture's making it a badge of honor to take no accountability in what we could do better and named it "He doesn't know my worth." So we have this new movement of being more willing to give up on getting it right due to the fear of getting wrong. But those elderly couples we adore who stayed married 50 years didn't just have a red carpet to happily ever after, they had to face and then get through obstacles. That meant saying how they felt when the words wouldn't come out right, listening when they felt like they had already heard enough, rubbing the other's feet when their feet were hurting too, apologizing when they knew the other one was wrong. All of that. That's a soul mate. Because God aligns our blessings for us, but he also gives us the responsibility to keep them. So yes, learn from your past, but don't confuse the effort it takes to keep a relationship together as just another mistake. It's not supposed to be easy. A lot of people are missing out on...

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For Good Men Who Are Tempted to Cheat
Nov12

For Good Men Who Are Tempted to Cheat

We encourage people to wear their seat belts, even though it's for their own good and could save their lives. We give pep talks to teenagers to remain drug free and stage interventions for those who didn't listen. But for men who are trying to resist the temptation to give in to lustful curiosity, we leave them with the "Just do it" Nike one-liner. If they fall, it's because they're no good. End of discussion. Well, there's a pivotal moment in every good man's mind just before his very first act of cheating, where he has to decide if it'll really be all that bad or if he can just get it over with and remember to stay out of the situation next time. And to that man, I want to say... You've proven your love for your woman, sacrificed for her and done for her like no other. You promised that you were ready to settle down, and you meant it, but then you realized your hormones didn't give a damn about keeping promises. So the rare opportunity to cheat and maybe even get away with it presents itself on a silver platter. She has her own protection in her purse, not interested in developing feelings; she just wants what you have and can make you feel really good if you give it to her. In the moment, it's not a big deal. I mean, it's just sex...right? And you've been donating penis for years since your very first charity event as a teenager when you didn't know which hole was which. But even though you don't place value on your body, remember, the woman you love does. It's special to her. So special that she's willing to save hers just for you. Sure, only God can judge you, but it's not even about being a good or a bad person. It's about making decisions that'll protect something your woman has been protective of for so long but trusted you with anyway. Her heart. I know, you have no feelings for this new chick that's in your face at the moment and it can all be over and done with in 5 minutes, 10 if your guilty conscience kicks in. You've fucked and forgotten for years, this would be no different. Except, it would be different. Because you'll never be able to look your woman in the eye and say "I love you", "I'm down for you", or "I truly care for you" without the contradicting truth ¬†of what's really real replaying in the back of your mind.   And the chick you'll screw has no loyalty to...

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