The Single Boyfriend
Sep29

The Single Boyfriend

Written by: Derrick Jaxn There's this term that as of late, has been run in the ground, pulled up, and run back into the ground again called "loyalty". I'm sure you've seen it a million times on Instagram/Facebook memes, or recycled tweets. We all have. But the more we use the word, the more desensitized to that actual meaning we get. For example: The Single Boyfriend. He's in a relationship, but he doesn't want everyone in his business, so he keeps it to himself. He has a faithful girlfriend that's giving him all her trust, so he puts it to the test by staying out late, keeping his phone on silent, and having a combination lock to his laptop. Truth be told, there's some things in there he can't explain but what she doesn't know won't hurt him. Besides, if she really trusts him, it shouldn't concern her anyway. Oh and when he's out, he's charitable with his lustful attention and likes to keep other chicks' hopes up with his wandering eyes and a few hugs that last too long.  Now, technically, he's still faithful. He doesn't have any feelings for these other women, nor does he take it so far as cuddling, dates, or even sex. So in his mind, it's all good because he doesn't cross the line and his girlfriend is satisfied because he comes home to her every night. All in the interest of being secure enough with herself to not worry. Well this is the problem with that. Even though he's being faithful in his relationship, he's still acting single. It's not that he has ill intentions so we can't induct him into the Ain't-Shit fraternity, but he has some growing up to do before his 20/20 hindsight comes a day late and a dollar short, losing him a good woman. Acting single while in a relationship is nothing more than trying to have your cake and eat it too. You want to have a great woman at home who's willing to do anything for you, but you also value the lust of random chicks that desire you. So you give them attention that you want reciprocated, lead them on, and wash your hands with them when they want more, all the while thinking it's a testament to your faithfulness because you know just when to pull back. But what you don't know is that every female you flirt with, and every person that sees you flirting with her, is one less person who's going to give your woman the respect she deserves for holding you down. The little things you do, the pet...

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True Love: 3 Signs You Struggle To Embrace The Love You Deserve
Sep24

True Love: 3 Signs You Struggle To Embrace The Love You Deserve

Written By: Stephan Labossiere Everybody enjoys being loved, but many struggle to embrace it as they should. Some will claim with their words how they desire true love, but their actions say something completely different.  You may be one of those people, and up to this point, you may not have accepted that fact. You are certainly not alone in your struggle, and now it's time to gain some clarity on this possible issue. So continue to read, and be prepared to do some self reflection. Here are three signs you aren't ready yet for true love.   You Run From The Best When you're not ready for true love, dating is much easier when it consists of people who you couldn't truly see yourself with long term. They may be great to have fun with, and help you get your mind off of things. Yet they don't possess that extra "something" that would make you want to go the distance with them.  A person who makes you feel like you never have, will likely have you running for your life. This person is a real threat to forcing you out of your comfort zone. They make you feel vulnerable, and for you that is down-right scary. You react this way probably because of the next sign. You Haven't Healed From The Past Many of us are walking around holding on to the hurt and pain that we experienced in the past. You may not realize it, but it is having a huge impact on your ability to give and receive love in the present. Moving past the issue does not necessarily mean you have properly addressed and resolved the issue within yourself. Because of this, you will consciously or subconsciously do all that you can to prevent yourself from being vulnerable and experiencing that hurt again. There is a great quote in the best-selling book God Where Is My Boaz that states "the same walls that you have up to protect you, are the same walls that are blocking your blessings." Healing is necessary, and without it, you aren't going to be ready or able to handle all the things that true love presents and provides. You're Controlling The constant need to have control in relationships isn't born out of love, it's born out of fear. It goes hand in hand with the fact that healing is lacking, and that you will not be willing to embrace a person who you don't feel in control with emotionally. True love is an extremely vulnerable experience, and control pretty much flies out the window in its presence. Which is why...

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Jonathan Ferrell Goes to Police For Help, Gets Killed
Sep15

Jonathan Ferrell Goes to Police For Help, Gets Killed

(CNN) -- Police in North Carolina shot and killed a man running toward them Saturday morning -- but he may have just been looking for help after a car wreck. Officers responded to a "breaking and entering" 911 call at a home in Charlotte. The homeowner told dispatchers that a man had been knocking on her door repeatedly. Police say that when they got to the scene, a man matching the caller's description ran toward them. One of the officers fired his stun gun, but it was "unsuccessful." Another officer then opened fire, police said. Officer Randall Kerrick is charged with voluntary manslaughter in the shooting of Jonathan Ferrell. Jonathan Ferrell died at the scene. He was shot several times. He was unarmed. Police now believe Ferrell was seeking assistance after crashing his car. The crash Ferrell was 24 and a former football player at Florida A&M University. Police found a wrecked car nearby, indicating that he may have been trying to get help. "It was a pretty serious accident," Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Chief Rodney Monroe told CNN affiliate WSOC. The crash was so severe that authorities now believe Ferrell had to climb out of the back window, affiliate WBTV reported. He ran to the closest house for help. The woman inside thought it was her husband. "To her surprise, it was an individual that she did not know or recognize," Monroe told WBTV. "She immediately closed the door, hit her panic alarm, called 911." The man stood outside and "continued to attempt to gain the attention of the homeowner," a police statement said. The shooting There were three officers at the scene, but Kerrick was the only one to use a gun. He fired several times, police said. "The evidence revealed that Mr. Ferrell did advance on Officer Kerrick and the investigation showed that the subsequent shooting of Mr. Ferrell was excessive," police said in another statement issued late Saturday night. "Our investigation has shown that Officer Kerrick did not have a lawful right to discharge his weapon during this encounter. " All three officers have been placed on paid leave. A charge of voluntary manslaughter means the person used excessive force in self-defense, or carried out the act without intent to kill. Police called the incident "unfortunate." "It has devastated a family as well as caused a great deal of sadness and anxiety in our organization," a statement said. The reaction Friends expressed grief on social media, calling Ferrell a "brother" and demanding "justice." He had at least one brother, Willie, who played with him at Florida A&M. The university said it was "deeply saddened" at the loss. In...

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George Zimmerman In Custody for A Domestic Altercation
Sep09

George Zimmerman In Custody for A Domestic Altercation

(CNN) -- George Zimmerman was taken into custody Monday after an apparent domestic altercation at a home in Lake Mary, Florida, police said. "As of right now, he has been placed in investigative detention," Lake Mary police spokesman Zach Hudson said. Hudson said three parties were involved in the altercation. The incident comes two months after Zimmerman, a neighborhood watch volunteer, was found not guilty of murder in the shooting death of Trayvon Martin in Sanford, Florida. Hudson added that police are following procedure by placing Zimmerman in investigative detention. "Anytime we have anybody suspected of doing anything, we place them in investigative detention until a complete investigation has been done," Hudson said. Lake Mary is a suburb of Orlando near Sanford. Share this:TweetShare on...

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George Zimmerman’s Wife Files for Divorce
Sep06

George Zimmerman’s Wife Files for Divorce

"I have a selfish husband" "I don't think I ever really knew him at all" "He's verbally abusive" "He's acting 'brand new'" "He has a bad temper" Now this doesn't sound like good ole "Georgey" that we came to know and love over the past year. Nevertheless, those are exact quotes from Zimmerman's wife, Shellie Zimmerman. She filed divorce papers Thursday against George Zimmerman, who was acquitted of second-degree murder in the shooting death of Florida teenager Trayvon Martin, her attorney told NBC News. Watch her interview below. http://derrickjaxn.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/George-Zimmermans-Wife-Shellie-Files-for-Divorce-Trial-for-Death-of-Trayvon-Martin-Strained-Marria-10Youtube.com_.mp4     Share this:TweetShare on...

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