How To KNOW If She’s The One
Feb17

How To KNOW If She’s The One

As we all know, females can be ruthless when it comes to relationships, but there's this rare species known as "wife material" that's out there. Guys usually don't run into these girls until we're damaged goods and a product of the screwed up society that told us it was in our nature to be a dumbass. Yeah, many of us outgrow this phase, but more times than not, timing isn't on our side. For the ones who're approaching this transition and think they've found the one, here are a few things to help you remove all doubt. She's the one if... She wasn't impressed with your corny ass pick up line but gave you a chance anyway because she saw something in you. She was your best friend when your "homeboys" left you hanging. She could listen to you go on and on about your dreams and hung on every word because she believed in you. She saw the attention you gave those other girls but still ignored the attention from other guys. She caught attitudes with you but only because she wanted you to care more and not be afraid to show it. She changed her hair and couldn't wait for you to notice but only without her having to point it out. When you had nothing, she was willing to give up everything to have nothing with you. She wasn't perfect, but her effort to be there for you was. She sees her favorite ring in a store and gets excited hoping that you notice without feeling like she's pressuring you into anything. She’s the girl that told you the truth when you needed to hear it most and still didn't judge you. When you kept coming in late, she was too scared to ask where you were because she might get the truth. She's the girl that was so proud to be by your side but you never would hold her hand in public. She loved you when it was the wrong thing to do. Not because she was stupid, but because she couldn't shake the feeling that everything you went through together had to mean something to you. She’s the girl you made cry over and over again until she was out of tears and couldn't take it anymore. If that's her, then she's the one and you really don't deserve her. But if you didn't do any and everything in your power to get her back and keep her there, then you made the biggest mistake of your life. -Derrick Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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Valentine’s Day- A Side Chick’s Worst Nightmare
Feb06

Valentine’s Day- A Side Chick’s Worst Nightmare

So it's that time of year where the rose pedals are falling, the wine is pouring, and the touchdowns are being scored. If you're one of the lucky ones, your only challenge is to figure out how to innovate from last year to get exactly what you get at the end of the night you always get. As for the other 80% of single and It's complicated America, this holiday should be banned. Single women are updating the "Independent Chick" playlists and getting ready to join forces with their single friends and pretend they don't feel the pressure together. Yet and still, there's no one with more on their plate than those riding the fence; the mistresses better known as "side-chicks'" This is something like an American Idol audition for them and they're either going to Hollywood or getting sent back home after waiting in line for so long for their big break. Oblivious to the fact they've been instructed to never tag pictures on Facebook without permission, that there's never any planned dates but instead a random "Hey let's chill" text, or how sitting on the edge of the bed watching Netflix is his idea of a dinner date; the hope that she's really his one and only is still alive. No doubt about it, the side chicks are more nervous than a trick-or-treater asking Jerry Sandusky for candy on Halloween, but I'm here to help. If you want to make sure you're not getting your hopes up for nothing, answer these questions: 1. Did your "man" start an argument with you? Starting an argument is a great excuse for a guy to plead his case about why he figured you wouldn't want anything for Valentine's Day. If he's lucky you'll even give him the silent treatment until it's over. 2. Does he give you an "I have a dream" speech about why he doesn't believe in Valentine's Day? Maybe because it's just a conspiracy from the government to make money or that instead of just one day, every day should be a day to prove one's affection? Well, if a guy's really into you, then any reason to treat you special and put a smile on your face is a good one. Just so you know. 3. Is he complaining about hitting tough financial times because he's still waiting on his tax money? That's what we call the good ole' rope-a-dope. Just one of the many ways to stall while Valentine's Day turns into your way of proving you understand and can hang in there when the going gets tough. 4. Did something come up that's going to...

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He’s Just Not My “Type”

So you're not quite the Next Top Model, but you're attractive enough so that you do have options. You're sure of what you want and refuse to settle for less but guys are either turn offs or not who they say they are. Well the problem could be in the laundry list of qualifications you expect your man to meet. "I want a bad boy, a lot of money, and that ain't afraid to put me in my place when I start talkin' crazy." That's music to an "Ain't Shit" dude's ears. Most women choose men based on the most superficial things like these but as you mature, so should your standards. Being tired of running into all the wrong guys while passing up the good guys is like hating spicy foods and drinking hot sauce. You're doing it to yourself. Mr. Right might statistically be the most average and unimpressive guy who can't make the cut because he's not 6'5 with abs and a 401k. When you define your type, it should include more than just personality and looks but also character. It doesn't matter how "fine" and "funny" a guy is, if he can't be FAITHFUL you're only hurting yourself by entertaining him. What you're using to attract these guys is also directly related to who's coming your way. You don't see people throwing out catnip when they go fishing for a reason. Same thing goes for when you wear the painted on jeans or have your cleavage hitting you in the chin then tell guys it's what's on the inside that counts. We're pretty easy to confuse and that will do just the trick. You want to catch and keep the good guys, then use good guy bait; Self-respect, patience, and class. Now if you're one of those looking for a guy by reasonable standards but they never turn out to be who they say they are, then I have a suggestion; When you're getting to know him, stop asking those Myspace ass questions about his favorite colors and start asking things he's not so used to lying about. Something like "What things did you go through that taught you the value of hard work?" or "Do you have a favorite author?" etc. Those are the kinds of questions that will show you where a man's at intellectually and with his maturity. Besides, impressing you should take more than a visit to the barbershop and a few lyrics from Drake.  If he can't take the lead on a mentally stimulating conversation, then he's showing you one of his colors and it rhymes with red flag. Don't make...

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