Top 20 Most Successful Lies Guys Tell
Jan30

Top 20 Most Successful Lies Guys Tell

Lying is like a man's native language. We come straight out the womb speaking it fluently. Before we can even pronounce Mama or Dadda, we use our body language to tell our lies. While some of us grow out of it(partially), there are some who don't care to venture from our roots. I call them the Ain't-Shit population. They're growing in number and even making little Ain't-Shit babies to carry on their legacy. So before I someday bring a daughter into this world, I feel that it is my duty to dust off my cape for a moment. I asked thousands of women and came up with the top 20 lies(in no particular order) and put them into Ain't-Shit translation for all to understand: 1.       I miss you. Something just randomly reminded me of you but other than that I haven't thought twice about you since last time we spoke 2.      I'm spontaneous so you just have to be down to ride. If nothing else works out, I'd like to call you and you be available 3.       I'd rather chill than go out any day. If I can get out of spending money by convincing you I'm a simple guy, I'll do it. 4.       I'm not like the guys in your past so don't compare me to them. Please try to forget the BS they fed you, because I ain't got new material and I wanna feed you some more. Eat up. 5.       Relationship titles just complicate things. Relationships complicate the lies I'mma have to tell you when I wanna go find other females. Too much thinking. That ain't my style. 6.       I love women with natural hair and beauty. You're going to do it anyway so I might as well get a couple cool points and pretend I care. 7.       I'm probably bout to go ahead n go to sleep. Time for me to make my nightly rounds so my other chicks don't get mad I didn't hit them up too. Equal opportunity. 8.       I didn't see your text until just now. I saw it, I just didn't feel like replyin at the moment but I don't want you holding it against me when I want you to come over this weekend 9.       Oh she's just a friend, something like a sister. I tried to get at her a while back and she told me no so I'm working wit you until she comes around 10.   I'm about to go chill with my homeboys. We all about to go recruiting to add to our roster so you can get a few teammates. 11.   I'm on my way.  I ain't nowhere...

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Women Who Make The First Move Are….
Jan26

Women Who Make The First Move Are….

....usually women who see what they want, and go after it. There's this misconception being spread by a particular relationship expert(I won't call names), that women who make the first move are thirsty and selling themselves short. She, like a lot of women, don't understand why a man might not be so quick to approach you. Typically women will just claim that they're "old fashioned" to justify sitting back and letting men come to them but slavery is old fashioned too; doesn't make it right. Whatever you do, don't turn into one of these, "A real man ain't scared to make the first move" types because Eharmony will be knocking on your door by age 40 when all the good men are taken. It's not about being scared. It's about whether or not the odds are in our favor. We assess the situation and get in where we fit in which sometimes means staying out. The same way a basketball player could pull up for the jumper, but if the entire opposing team is guarding him, he'll more than likely opt out. Given that not every guy is Kobe in the 4th quarter, we don't want to ruin our chances we might have to try another time. It doesn't help if you have 20 of your girlfriends with you to multiply the humiliation should you perform your best "boy bye" once the stage is yours.  You find it cute but while it boosts your ego it depletes ours. No other woman is going to want to entertain the guy who just got shot down. Imagine if you saw it happen and he came to you next.....right. "I intimidate most men " Whoa... Slow your role. Sure, it's a comforting thought how you're so sexy, that while the strong may survive, the meek shall not inherit your earth....but chill.  Some men really don't care whether you say yes or no, they'll approach you out of sheer apathy because the part of you they really want comes a dime a dozen. The guy who's looking for that one in a million at least cares about the chance to get to know you.  Besides, it doesn't take a 'brave' man to approach you the same way it doesn't take a brave man to see somebody shooting at them and refuse to duck. Some dudes just have their 'give-a-shit' knob broken. That's the same guy that sees you coming out the health clinic in tears but will stop you to say, "Ay yo ma, come holla at me". You may think it's unladylike to make the first move if you have the wrong idea about what...

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Turning A Ho Into A HouseHusband
Jan22

Turning A Ho Into A HouseHusband

You know the saying,"You can't turn a ho into a housewife" but is the same true for men? Most times people(primarily women) like to apply the same logic with females to males but it's a completely different ball game. We don't think the same, feel the same, or react the same 90 percent of the time. That remaining ten percent is usually with a homosexual man but as for the other 90, you can NOT change a ho into a house husband. You can, however, be the reason for that man's change and still be the beneficiary of the new him. What happens is, a man and woman will have a strong connection, great chemistry, and physically drawn to one another, but that man is still a slave to his single ways. While this is a red flag, wasting the potential of what could be special is a last resort so you try anyway. Then you start getting comfortable with the deep conversations and quality time, only to learn that you couldn't change him after all. Now he's a cheater and once a cheater, always a cheater right? WRONG! But a broken heart is hardly understanding, so you don't want to hear it. He seemed liked the perfect guy for you, but now you see he's just like all the other guys. Even though he starts doing everything to get you back, the trust has been severed and eventually you decided to just cut him off for good. This is the part where a lot of women go wrong. While your girlfriends are patting you on the back, you know deep down that something's just not right about how you handled it. Your man cheated, so by no means does he DESERVE a second chance. However, if you feel like he's worth it, there's a right way to give him one. That way he doesn't move on to another very happy relationship with a new woman; All because he was so heartbroken from making a choice that led to losing you, which was just what he needed to realize that cheating isn't worth all the trouble it brings. Not only would you be stuck with a scarred heart, but also with the reality  you put in the work, and she showed up to cash your check. Then you'll be wondering, "Was it me?". So the right way to give a second chance, is LATER. Don't make the mistake of immediately taking him back once he brings flowers, checks in every night, and takes the lock off his phone to show you he's serious. All that does is show him...

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How Many Men She’s Slept With DOES Matter
Jan19

How Many Men She’s Slept With DOES Matter

Curiosity killed the cat, but more often it just ends up bursting our bubble. We have a habit of asking questions we really don't want the answer to, like "Am I the best you ever had" or better yet, "So how many partners have you had before me?" But does it really even matter? I say yes it does, but particularly for women. Double standard you say? Why it's ok for men to sleep around but if a woman does she's a hoe? First off, it's not ok but aside from the titles, I believe there's a thin line between a double standard and structure. Roles that have been consistent since  men were expected to be the providers and women the nurturers.  In addition, women have always been expected to have more discretion with their bodies than men. You can drive through any neighborhood and find a group of shirtless dudes playing basketball, but if that same court was full of women doing the same thing you'd probably wreck your car; or find a very close parking spot(since we're being real). If a woman feels threatened by another woman, she can use violence to protect herself, but a man who does the same is a bus driver...I mean a woman beater. Now why is that considered "Just the way it should be" but a higher standard for women's discretion of their bodies a double standard? In 2013, people are challenging these roles all in the name of Only God Can Judge Me. So we have little boys exploring other boys as freely as they would little girls for their first crushes, molly and birth control popping is the daily diet for teens, and we even almost had Mitt Romney as a president. I may be old fashioned, but I'd rather not try on panties to make a stance for my right to choose where my place in society could be. Basically, just because it's not written in black and white ink doesn't mean you should erase it and write whatever comes to mind. So yes I do feel that women should be a bit more guarded with their bodies regardless if men doing the exact opposite is tolerable or not. If that's a double standard then so is chivalry. Men are just "supposed" to open the door, pull out chairs, and pay the tab for dates. Let's not do away with one double standard and stop at that. Just be prepared for a world that says "anything goes" which is exactly where we're headed in case you've been under a rock. So how does a woman's body count matter?...

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Prenups; Closing the Door To An Easy Way Out
Jan15

Prenups; Closing the Door To An Easy Way Out

A friend of mine is getting married soon and faced with the infamous option to get a prenuptial agreement. You know, the one most of us would shoot down in honor of our commitment " 'til death do us part". Prenuptial agreements, or prenups, determine how valuable assets will be divided in a divorce. When there is no prenup, usually somebody leaves with more than he or she earned during the marriage. For example: Kobe Bryant's marriage. So if you believe in happily 'ever after, then you may see prenups as unnecessary or even a red flag that somebody's bracing for a divorce. But do prenups really mean you expect the marriage to end prematurely? Well, does wearing a seatbelt mean you expect to wreck? No. I understand that you don't go into a marriage entertaining the possibility that it won't work, but believe it or not... Prenuptial agreements facilitate longevity in marriage. When you get married, you expect certain odds to come against you; Arguments, temptations, etc. Those odds are incentives to divorce depending on the seriousness. The absence of a prenup' leaves a one sided incentive to whoever, during the marriage, is worth less(no pun intended). Of course, nobody's thinking about that at the altar. But what happens when those other odds come knocking?  "For better or worse, through thick and thin" means no matter what, we're supposed to find a way to work through it. Think about those marriages that ended in huge settlements, and how much more willing someone would've been to work things out if there were millions of dollars less to gain by quitting. In cases like Kobe Bryant's, a divorce was practically a lottery ticket waiting to be cashed in. Don't you think that in the wake of a serious argument, $150 million might be an incentive to throw in the towel? Just a little Most of the "no-prenup" advocates out there see it as a liability reliever when we want to excuse our marriage vows. This implies that we just want a safety net so we don't have too much to lose. Well, a prenuptial agreement is the least of your worries if he's more afraid of divorcing his wallet than divorcing you. Having one doesn't always have to be preparation for an inevitable "post marriage" situation, but instead it gives you a better chance of never having to worry about that. Would you leave your extremely attractive and single girlfriend home alone with your husband for a few days while you're off on a business trip? Assuming that you said (hell) no, I'd say it's not because you don't trust him, but...

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