Do Black Men Prefer White Women?
Oct31

Do Black Men Prefer White Women?

I have to put some context around this answer before you start filling in your own blanks. Keep in mind, my perspective is formed from a small sample size of the people I've met so hold your "Nuh-unh not me's" for the comment section. It's not that easy to say yes or no but generally speaking, can we say that there seems to be a growing trend of black men choosing white women? Yes. Does that mean we prefer them.... What black men prefer is respect, to be allowed the leadership role in a relationship, some not so classy things in the bedroom, cooking, and defined roles. These are things that aren't so high up on the priority list of the modern black woman, and while a lot of this is quite stereotypical, there's some sense to be made of it all.  A lot of us grew up in single parent households seeing our mothers, the strong black queens they are, holding it down, making it happen with little to no help. Our mothers passed down those hard learned life lessons to their daughters teaching them that self-sufficiency is the key to happiness. Now...our mothers were raised by a different generation and given the proper skills to raise a family within the structure of a traditional relationship, but had to go to plan B when Pops hit the highway. This is when those days of a man being the king of the household began to thin themselves out. So the modern black woman grew up with that reality in mind and doing whatever it took to not wake up to it. She also wasn't taught to cook for a family, to keep a house clean, or to tolerate a man's authority so long as she had money to go out to eat, cleaned up after herself, and was educated enough to make her own decisions. Anything else is borderline if not outright oppressive and outdated. It's even prevalent in mainstream media. How many times have you heard anthems about a woman who wants to raise children and support a husband as opposed to 'Independent chick" anthems? Many would say that black women aren't as freaky as white women and even though that's highly debatable, I'll let you in on a little secret....brothers like freaky. On the contrary, white women's households kept much of those traditions in tact throughout the generations thus facilitating the stereotypical "Soccer Mom" persona that we associate with them today. They didn't have the destruction of the communities, mass incarceration of their men, etc that we did. So there certainly are unfair odds in their favor when it comes to the...

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A REAL Man Can Handle…

I got an email not too long ago from a woman having some issues keeping a man, and I couldn't believe her reasoning as to why she was having such a hard time. Apparently there's not many men who are "man enough" to step up to her plate...which was loaded with a bunch of BS she felt should come with the package of "not being perfect". According to various Twitter rants and casual conversations I've overheard, a lot of women seem to share her sentiments, so this message is to her and every woman alike. If you've ever said, "It takes a real man to be able to handle me", I probably(as in definitely) am talking to you.... Why do you feel an entitlement to a man's perserverance to keep you while all you do is put it to the test? In other words...you've got some nerve. A real man is hard enough to find as it is, don't think that the world owes you one. Ask around, being lonely long-term is more than a myth. It's way too much TV watching going on if perfectly sane women are really expecting every brother to come whisk them off their feet as they kick one leg in the air. The ones who are ready and willing to do just that also come with high standards and can spot trouble a mile away. But hypothetically speaking, let's say a real man does come your way. He's probably working hard to keep his bills paid on time and credit score high. After a long day of doing that, you figure the best way to strengthen the relationship and repay him is to give him more stress: Being stubborn, asking a million questions at all the wrong times, acting suspicious of every move, claiming you're tired when he says he's hungry. Like that's your role. Like you got it like that. Like there ain't already a good number of single good women and an unlimited supply of misguided women like you just waiting for a chance.... What man wants a woman that he has to "handle" anyway. You're grown, or at least try to pretend. You're going around telling everyone how you was "too much" for your last man, but you're the first to start talking slick when you see him with a white girl. It's not about race so let's not even go there, but you seem real quick to point a finger at everyone and everything but the mirror. "Nobody's Perfect", "My Good Outweighs My Bad", "Men Are Intimidated By a Strong Woman", yeah I've heard it all. Truth remains, real...

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