The 20/80 Rule

As true stuarts of loyalty, we pride ourselves on committing ourselves in a relationship through thick and thin. When something comes along which could be better, we automatically assume it's a determent to our happily ever after we'll eventually get. But at some point, you end up confronting the nagging reality that you're confusing your pursuit as the finish line to blissful love. But what if, the grass is actually greener on the other side..... If you're not finding happiness with your current situation, there's nothing wrong with acknowledging you deserve better. I know, being in love while also being unsatisfied with the relationship is a weird situation but here's my philosophy: Love should be the bond to your man like drugs to an addict, not cuffs to an inmate. Don't mistake your life sentence for a relationship. Just give yourself some down time being single before you hop into another relationship or those insecurities from your new man will haunt you every time it rains. If you're not happier being single than in your current situation, a new relationship isn't the answer anyway. Keep a man who's world revolves around you but when you're just an after thought to what really matters to him, give a second thought to the high road. Too many times we're pressured by the world who says moving on means giving up, but how many times has the world had your best interest at heart? The 80/20 rule only applies when you have the 80, not the 20. Anything else is just backwards. -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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Gay People
Jul14

Gay People

I'm only an expert of my own perception so if you have sensitive eyes, this might not be your read. With that being said, I'm really not feeling how this whole "gay" movement is being conducted as well as criticized. It seems like everyone ties things together at what ever conceniences their argument. Contrary to popular belief, lifestyle choices don't dictate a person's character. For example; Christians. No I don't agree with being gay...that's why I'm not gay. But it seems that "pro-gay" people think that makes you a homophobic for having an opinion. I'm all for us having equal rights, but that also includes the right to be disagreed with too. Same thing with other socially unaccepted lifestyles such as drug users and atheists. You can't just ask everyone to celebrate your personal choice and call it a right. No, I'll continue to skip the gay pride parades without losing a minute of sleep regardless of who likes it.   And I always get questions like, "So what if your child was gay?" Well first off, if it's my daughter, then fine. (stereotypical I know). But if it's my son...that's fine too. Being gay is one thing, but wanting to be a woman is a completely different animal. Everyone's comprimising the roles that aren't defined in black and white and even some that are. No there's no law that mandates that people with testicles should dress a certain way, but structure and order doesn't negate a free country. How you carry yourself, how you handle your responsibilities, and how you treat others all tie into the role of a man. It has little to do with your sexual preference. I won't applaud my son running from his responsibility to be a man. If he's attracted to men, that's his choice and has no bearing on my success as a father. But if he feels like wearing heels and make-up is the way to find himself, then he'll find himself under a roof of his own. Men doing manly things is just the way it's supposed to be. That's why it's called MANly. We don't have to re-invent the wheel here guys. Whoever created us made it pretty simple to distinguish what side of the fence we were on. Cross dressing men conveniently tie in their womanly aspirations with being homosexual for some strength in number tactic but it's really not the same. I've never disliked a person for being gay, ever. I've always been disgusted by men who don't want to be men, whether gay or straight. I don't understand what the fuss is about gay marriage either. We can't start enforcing religious beliefs now after years of slavery, lack...

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