Mental Treadmill Pt.2

            I wouldn't say I'm a high profiled guy, but I think on some level I mean something to people. Unfortunately that goes both ways and one way more than the other at times. I see so many people every day and rarely do I get their honest thoughts of me when I meet them but rather a friendly hello or head nod. Even on a basic level, people are reluctant naturally to express how they really feel and it changes none the more serious the relationship. If I had a dime for everyone's kind words that didn't line up with their actions I'd be able to hire P. Diddy. I hate the type of people who only complain and act like life isn't supposed to happen to them too but some things I'll never understand. I feel like I was programmed with loyalty but the world is only compatible with fake and flaky systems. Sometimes you even have to question 'karma' like, God what did I do to deserve this? My life isn't in shambles but I'm growing increasingly impatient with niggas who call you "friend" in vain  and they come a dime a dozen. I learned a long time ago that no one will have your back 100% of the time, so you have to. It's just a cold way to live to refuse to trust but the other alternative is to play their game and mean nothing you say to them. Idk, just thinking in frustration to seldom finding people who hold loyalty in high regard or the fact that I can't sleep at night tryna be one of them so I can fit in. This mental treadmill was definitely needed.... -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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I want that_______ kind of love

  Yeah, I want that kind of love. It's hard enough being a black family in America, but try running the country while you're at it. I have nothing but admiration for these two. No man has any excuse to say he's "too busy" for his woman with President Barack always MAKING time for his family. Michelle is also a prime example on how to play her part while Barack handles his business as shown in the picture. She's not disturbing him or nagging him, but she's there encouraging him and posted in case he does need some assistance. Playing her part doesn't mean being a subordinate which is what we often get confused. I'm not saving the world like Obama but when I'm handling my own business I crave for those "Michelle" qualities.  At times when I'm playing too much or out of line, I still need that  kind of love. That, no matter how irrational I'm acting, she still loves me for me type of love. A good man is still a man. We mess up, speak without thinking, etc just like the next. I can't always be perfect but I want to be worth it to my lady. Martin was short, goofy, wasn't making a lot of money, but Gina put up with anything to hold her man down. Even though Martin had his ways, he still stayed true to his woman and that's the way it should be. They MADE it work no matter what. Yeah yeah yeah, it's just on tv but I'm crazy enough to believe it's still possible. -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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What He Won’t Do, Another Man Will

Hearing this phrase is like walking in a port-a-potty barefoot. Yeah it disgusts me. I guess it's supposed to put men in our "place" or show us how replaceable we are but it shows me a lot about a girls maturity or lack thereof when she says it. I say that because women are applying this thought to serious relationships as opposed to casual dates as it was meant to be. Why are you still shopping around for what another man will do? You're going to end up losing a good man trying to live your life by these Google quotes. The grass ain't always greener on the other side and this quote doesn't have to go home to that lonely bed once you find out, you do. Sure, if you're not looking for anything serious, keeping your options open, by all means point him the other direction when he doesn't meet your standards. But if you've got a good man, an "80%", this quote will send you chasing that 20% for the rest of your life. Yes I do consider myself a "catch" and like most, I have pretty high standards for the woman I'm looking to build my future with. As soon as she says this, I know her mind is still in a place I left mine years ago and it's time to keep it moving. Why you're with me can't be about what I "do" for you anyway, it should be about who I am and how that fits into your life. Watching these "reality" TV shows is slowly deteriorating our women's sense of what it takes to grow with someone. I know this doesn't apply to all women but there's a growing population of those who don't seem to know any better. For those who do, please break bread and be your sister's keeper. For me. -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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Think Like a Man….but What About Us?
Apr24

Think Like a Man….but What About Us?

So I've finally watched the movie, "Think Like a Man, Act Like a Lady" and I can truly say, job well done Steve. You've effectively convinced women to think they know how to trick a man into loving them the way they've always wanted. Trust me, I love women and want to help them find the love they deserve, but what Steve Harvey(who's cheated on his wife several times)  conveniently neglected to mention is that not all men are like him. Taking the general conception that 'Men ain't shit', he just categorized us all into those "good men waiting to happen" categories while there is actually a such thing as a good man just waiting for the right woman at the right time. I'm speaking from personal experience only but for instance: 1) The Mogul in the Making- Yes this is similar to the "dreamer" but not quite the same. This is the man who already has a lot going for himself and is focused on just that and nothing else. He's a great guy, no criminal record, has good credit, morals etc. but he also has a plan for his life and a serious relationship and a family didn't make the cut this round. Doesn't mean he needs to be tricked, just a matter of time if you have the patience. 2) Shy Brotha- You all know the guy with no game, no swagger, no style? Well this is probably also the guy who's willing to put you first if given the chance. Only thing is he can't keep your attention because you're looking for Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome with a 401k. No he may not approach you first, but if you shake those outdated traditions of "letting him come to you", you'll realize this great guy was just waiting to be found by a woman who knows treasure when she sees it. 3) Damaged Goods- "Ain't Shit" women come a dime a dozen just like the men. So when they show their true colors to good men who chose to love them, there's a grace period we need to regain our composure. No matter how tough we are, it's this thing called human that makes it impossible to just brush off our shoulders when we invest our heart into someone who breaks it. He's still a great guy, and because of that he's going to want you to have your own clean slate rather than picking up where the last chick left off. He's actually doing you a favor by not giving you what you want exactly when you want it. I'm sure the list goes on of the kinds of men that are unsung...

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Brian McKnight new material: “Show You How Your Pussy Works” ?? o_O

So apparently our beloved Brian McKnight just posted a new video on youtube of his new song, "Ready to Learn" in which is chorus goes, "Let Me Show You How Your Pussy Works". Pretty Ricky has to be quite proud. It must be a tough economy when you hit music lovers with a low blow like that. Smh Somebody get Brian!!!!! I'll post a few links because people are posting the links left and right and taking them right down(for good reason). Good luck on one that works http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vxgF0it2cfw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YVEiUq-L7w -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

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